Drifting apart..

Lifestyle Relationships
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I feel like im drifting apart from everyone. Even from someone very special to me. I dont wanna loose the important people in my life. But i dont know what to do. Im in a very difficult situation in my life atm. And i really dont know what path to take.

Did any of you girls/guys feel like this? What exactly did you do?
Any happy endings??.. or shall i just get the ice cream out and relax :frowning:

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Re: Drifting apart..

The biggest thing is that you realised it, all i would say is try fixing it while you can, kinda stop things that are keeping you busy and try spending time with the more important ppl in life,

My 2 cents

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yeah then I stop drifting away.

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Re: Drifting apart..

i say don't worry about hte things worry about hte people ... things can be bought or can be done later ... but once the people are gone ... its really hard to bring them back and even if htey are back the feeling never comes back

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I think you have to figure out why are you drifting apart from these people...Sometimes we just want different things from people who are in our lives and we feel like we have got nothing in common anymore.

Over the years I have lost in touch with so many people...Some of us dont have anything common anymore e.g. my mates from college ended up getting married and having kids when we finished college while I went to university and it was very difficult for me to talk to them about what I was doing because I felt like we had nothing in common anymore I completely lost in touch with them for few years but now we are back on track and I am glad.

I guess you have to figure out how important these people are to you..If they are not then just move on...You will meet new people will have new experiences...But if they are important then try and work on things Its hard but I am sure it will be worth it at the end just try and find some common ground.

Good Luck

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Hmmm.........what is the difficult situation that you're in? What is the path that you have to decide upon? The answers to these two questions could help us understand why you're feeling this way, and give advice accordingly.

Spend time with your loved ones. Even if you can manage only a few minutes from your busy schedule. Be there for them. Show them you care about them through your actions because they speak louder than words. Tell them you love them......sincere praise/compliments......gifts....can help bring people closer as well. Sometimes we avoid those we've injured (even unintentionally) and they think we don't care about them...........so spending time with them shows that you still care about the individual and that you're able to separate the negative issues at hand from the person.

It's easier said than done. I know I can struggle with this. But............if your "drifting" is a result of grudges..........then try to forgive and forget.......and make the effort to reconnect with the person.

Communication...................can't have a relationship without it. Resolve issues through open and respectful communication. When we begin a discussion by getting defensive and making accusations......."You did this to me" "You never do that"........"You're SO this".........the other person also either gets defensive or tunes you out. Instead....start the discussion in a positive way..........maybe mention the positive qualities you like about the person. You can even acknowledge any favors that they've done. Then proceed to tell them you understand their concerns.........acknowledge their feelings about the issue. And THEN..........talk about your concerns...."I feel that this would be a good idea because.....etc" And try to reach a compromise with the other person. Urge them to work with you on reaching one.

Pray namaz........ask Allah to make things easier for you and help everyone get through this, and to do what is best for you. If you have to decide upon what path you should take in life...........try praying Istikhara.

Evaluate your situation. Try not to think with just your heart (this can be tough to do). Make a list of the pros and cons about the situation. Ask yourself what are the positives........what are the negatives. Ask yourself how your decisions can affect you in the long term. That can help you decide as well.

Whatever you're going through, I hope things will get better soon. Hang in there.......most situations are not permanent.......it'll blow over. Best wishes.

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Re: Drifting apart..

^ To add....

I don't know if the people in you're life that you're drifting away from are friends or family.

BUT.........if the people in question are not respecting you.......you might need to question if you even want to maintain a relationship with them. For example........if a friend or cousin.....is always treating you wrong..........it's better to keep a distance.

As Glamsy mentioned above.......sometimes people's goals change. Sometimes you'll find that you have less in common with your friends that are now married or that have children. It happens. People get busy with their lives and they have other many obligations to fulfill (marriage, work, family, etc). You can attempt to reach out to the person........and focus on the similarities you have with them. For example.........engage in a common hobby or activity. But if you feel that the other party is not making a mutual effort to maintain the friendship............or if you feel that a deliberate effort to avoid you is being made.........then maybe it's time to find better friends.