Discuss!
are you designing your engagement/shaadi dress? is your MIL? Are you doing it together? Did she ask your opinons and preferances? Did she give you money to get your own dress? etc etc etc.
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I didn't design a thing. First of all, I couldn't go to Pakistan and second (and most important), I have no clue about Pakistani fashions. I simply specified the color of the shaadi dress and left the rest in the very capable, tasteful and fashionable hands of my super-awesome MIL and SIL.
And I looked FABULOUS, if I do say so myself.
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^ oh please do put up pics! would love to see what you looked like! :)
my FIL and MIL took me shopping together for all my dresses even shaadi! they told my parents not to worry about a thing and whisked me away! they were so nice and patient with me and on average we were shopping for 10 hours daily! my FIL was so helpful and i couldn't get over how patient he was! my MIL and i literally have the same taste in clothes, as she is so young and trendy herself and we even are the same dress size! so she gave me lots of advice and ideas on choosing the dresses and i loved all her ideas.
regarding price i honestly don't know who paid for what as Dad told me not to worry about a penny. but obviously both parties share the expenses if i am not wrong.
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My MIL recently called wanting to know what color combo and what style i want for my engagement dress. Decisions decisions decisions! I trust her taste tho, so i think im in good hands. I wonder if anyones had any bad experiences with MILs choosing out dresses..
Iyla and Mistral, Post pics!!!
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Im getting married soon and i really wanted to get all my wedding shopping from pak, i just knew i wouldnt be able to get what i wanted from the uk so my MIL gave me money to do my walima shopping, i went with my family and i chose everything myself, from my walima outfit, shoes, jewellrey and even all the additional party dresses from their side etc, i chose it all myself! and Alhumdulillah they were really happy with my choices :) i know some of my fiances fam wanted to do my shopping for me but my MIL was like no, i want her to get everything she likes, which was really nice of her bless her
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I am so nervous about to how I will handle this when it comes up...I am not sure bout my MIL's tastes...Id rather get my own dress for the wedding and leave the valima to her...but she already sounds like she wants to take care of every thngs her self that I am left wondering if she will even ask my prefrences! I guess we will see...!
I would say to do the shopping by yourself as noone understands your taste specially the wedding is soo important. I was unable to go to pakistan for my shaadi but my aunt did all my shopping and she did an awesome job.. My SIL did my valima shopping and unfortunately the necklace turned out to be horrible for valima but I had to wear it since it was from them.. The dress was really pretty but it ruins everything I think for you if you are not satisfied..They had asked me colors and necklace choice and I think it was miscommunication that happened when it came to the necklace so noone is really to blame!
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My in-laws have very good taste, so Im not worried about it. However, we decided together on the outfits, the colour, design, etc. I chose my own engagement outfit, but my MIL paid for it, and for valima, I will choose it, and MIL will pay. I think thats fair.
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MY MIL was unable to go shop for the wedding so she asked her SIL to make my valima jora and bari. Everyone around me wants to know if I'm anxious to see it or how I will react if I don't like it.
To avoid dissappointment, I've told myself that since I am not involved in the planning and decision making, I can't control teh outcome. I already feel very removed from it. Whatever they get is a reflection of their family. If I like it, great! if I don't like, I'll try my best to forget about it. I'm picky when it comes to details so guranteed, one way or another, there will be something that I would think can be 'improved' about the jora, regardless of how it looks.
It's sad to say but in my head, my wedding ends on the day of my rukhsati. Anything after that is a cherry on top :-)
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Aww^^
That sucks. There is no way you can kinda slip it in somewhere? A little hint? Your valima is def. important too.
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^ lol...to be honest. I REALLY don't care anymore. If they had wanted to include me, they would have asked me to make it. But they chose to do it on their own.
What I have heard is that the outfit is different shades on pink, with cream and gold. It's a long shirt with a sharara. That sounds nice to me :-)