Hello everyone! I am engaged to be married to a wonderful American man of Pakistani desent in the fall of this year. We are doing a christian wedding with our friends and family and then a walima in his hometown. My future MIL is wonderful- but the styles she likes are going to look overwhelming on me. I am a fair skinned, blonde. I also want to do something in the white family so it does not look like I am trying to be something I am not.
Can you help me with suggestions?? I know there are post about how awful white brides look in desi bridals and I am counting on you to save me from being an example of what NOT to wear. Anything I ask for will need to match heavy gold jewlery- a whole 'nother discusion!
She is unsure if she will be able to travel back to Pakistan. So we may need to go somewhere in the states. But, she is very much hoping to have something made back home.
This comes to mind, it’s a Sana Safinaz, other people on here will be able to tell you where they’re based, I have no idea. You should check out the valima threads, see if anything catches your fancy. http://www.paklinks.com/gsmedia/files/97354/SanafiBrideb.jpg
Thanks, that is so beautiful! I have noticed a few threads about white bridals- but my MIL seems to think that in unacceptable. Is there something wrong with white at the walima?
whiterice, she is just messing up with ya. :cb:…may be she just dont want you to wear western bridal dress. otherwise white, or off-white looks amazing.
two of my friends had white desi bridal dress on their wedding (one had it on her wedding and other had it on her reception), and both looked stunning.
i have seen many white brides in asian clothes and with the right style looks amazing, i think something that should be pointed out is that trad asians wear bright colors, say on the wedding red, and walima blues, purple or greens, of course now any colour goes either day, but the older gen still regard bolder colours are being more "bridal" hence why your MIL is'nt keen on white.
i would say dont be scared of any colours just due to skin colour or your fair hair, its how everything comes together :)
this store is in the uk but i have some half desi cousins that aren’t too crazy for desi fashion. I saved this pic for her bc she wants something more american looking and I think you would really like the white one:
Also Platinum weddings showed Sabrina and Danish and her wedding dress was also very americanized
i know some desi mothers who dont like their daughters or DIL to wear white, even on the valima...how about light pink or a champagne color instead? Im sure you could pull off any color, just keep it simple. Since you will be already wearing white at the christian wedding, why not take the valima as an opportunity to try something a little different?
Not to tell you to copy someone else, but there were pictures posted of another gori, and she wore a light blue with a very light jewellery set and she looked very gorgeous and elegant. I would recommend light colors for you. But you could always go for brighter colors if you're ready for that.
My friend's wife was fair and blond, and she looked great in all the Pakistani clothes and jewels! For her wedding reception she wore a shaded off-white and blue sharara (skirt) with heavy stonework and a matching gold and sapphire set. She looked great.
Wow! Thank you so much for all the ideas! I really think I made myself too nervous reading through a few negative threads on paklinks when I first found this site about gori's wearing desi outfits. I wore a red lengha for my mungni (sp?) and did love it- so I am willing to go with different colors for other events. It just feels like I should wear something that feels like a fusion for MY wedding. White feels like a wedding to me. And I guess it feels fake to dress as a traditional pakistani bride, when, well I am not. I just don't want people making fun of me :(
Anyway these ideas will really help me get the conversation started with my fmil!
Thanks again to everyone!
Hope you don't mind me stopping by from time to time to ask a few questions or just admire all of the beautiful weddings pictures!!
^ We've got a few threads on here with some GORGEOUS white bridals. I think the key is to wear something that feels like you, but special and fun for your big day.
Well desis don’t usually associate ‘white’ with ‘wedding’, even though it looks super elegant and graceful! I’m sure you know how colouful and exuberant Pakistani weddings tend to be, so your MIL might be scared that a white dress would be to be too simple for such an event. Maybe you two could meet in the middle, and have a your choice of a white dress, but in the style of a well embellished sharara (long skirt) to fit in with a desi wedding, and to please your MIL?
These are the sort of dresses I’m talking about. A little bit of both Eastern and Western influences!
Hope you and your MIL can decide on something you both love!
More good ideas! I really like the idea of meeting in the middle. And no matter what- I won't let a dress get in the way of building a great relationship with her! Really, you guys are awesome!!!!
If you are very pale whiterice, then i would NOT recommend the ivory for you. It WILL make you look washed out. You should go for pure white. It will give color to your face. You can also opt for silver as an option. Silver with smokey eyes and pale pink lipstick will look really nice. Plus it will also add some color. http://www.paklinks.com/gsmedia/files/89087/20956_315206105125_503560125_5207135_5978891_n.jpg
What I was thinking for you however was a deep emerald green or even lilac. Lilac would look heavenly. Somehow I feel it would compliment your coloring. And don’t think of Valima so much as a wedding, rather as a party after the wedding, which is what it really is. That way you’ll feel bride-y in any dress, not necessarily white.
I know you may not want to do this, but if you get a white dress, pay 45 dollars for a spray tan, OR go to a tanning bed three times the week before and you’ll have a nice glow to you. Only stay in for 5 minutes the first time and the last time ten. You’ll have a glow and look amazing. Your best bet is however to try dresses in all the colors, even if you’re not into the style, just to see which color looks best with your skin tone.
These links above will open if you click on them individually and select "OPEN IN NEW TAB". Somehow I cant get the dresses to show up this way, I think the names are too short or something.
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