Is it OK to encourage your children to have dreams and goals of a better future, luxuries and wealth or should you pin them down and ask them to have mediocre expectations in life?
Ummm, maybe I’m not saying this right, but is it OK to allow your kids to dream big or must you always bring them down and give them a reality check?
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Talking of dream big, my 5 year old daughter want to be a “Fire Fighter” and she is telling us this since she was 3 and could not even call the word fire-fighter properly and used to say “I wana be a fighter-fighter”
I am all for her to be whatever she wana be :k:
As for my 9yo son, he just wana go to work like baba (GS, here comes another loyal poster). What will he do there, he is yet to decided but from time to time he has said that he want to be an “inventor” and invent things for people. Now how can we discourage that 
In short (after doing long baskwas), so far they have not talked much about life, money and luxuries rather what they wana be.
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Encourage ur kids to do well. You know put it in their head when they're kids b/c thats' when it matters the most....trying to change them when they're teens/adults hardly ever works
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I think encourage your kids and be there for them when things don't work out.....that being said once your child is older (teenager) I think parents need to find the balance between encouraging them and having them be realistic.......I say this because we have a family friend who has spent thousands of his parents money starting businesses that were bad ideas to begin with
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yes let them dream BIG but realize that some of those big dreams might be yours and not theirs....
and dremaing big is not an issue when as long as they are being taught life balance and humility
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"Imagination is more important than knowledge." Albert Einstein
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It is ok for you to encourage them to do well....so for example encouraging them to do well in school because that will lead to a successful career and a good life for them and their family, however, encouraging them to dream big for the sake of wealth and luxuries can lead to them becoming wordly.
You should also remind them that although it is important for them to do well and aim for a successful career, success is not defined by money and wealth alone and those things are not nearly as important as your deen and what you do with your success (i.e. a millionaire who blows their money on nice cars, designer clothes etc. vs. a millionaire who donates a large sum of their money to charity etc.)
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I guess if it was my child, I would encourage their dreams but not promote financial success as a dream. Does that make any sense?
I am not explaining this right. I would want them to know their passion is more important than anything else. When you're passionate about something, money tends to just follow.
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I would like to teach my daughter to give her best in whatever she does. She should learn to be committed & honest with her education , career & relationships. I believe then good things will automatically follow. L mean who knew that JK Rowling will make so many millions from a story of Harry Potter :)
Teaching your children to love money and have money & luxuries as your ultimate desires & goals can be very destructive for the kids. Because when a kid will learn that “money is everything” then money will take over career , education & relationships too. There should be a balance , money is a necessity to live life but it is not everything.
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From my perspective, parents encouragement has the most profound effect on your motivation to suceed. You should definetely encourage them to dream, as dreams are where the passion and drive for achieving goals comes from. I agree with it being best if they are not based on wealth however, as there are more important things.
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Yes you should encourage kids to havE dreams and goals,But you should also teach them how to accEpt the the fact when things and God forbid dreams go wrong,coz no one knows what they going to face tomorrow/future,
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