OMG!
Why so much pressure on this regard on the girl’s parents. And going by the increase in price in everything nowadays, i wonder how people manage :(. I am not saying one shudnt give their daughters wat their rights are but my god, giving crockery in dowry n stuff like that is lil too much if u ask me. But so are the standards set in our society which are very wrong standards.
So whats yr take on this? What did u take in yr dowry?.
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i wont take any stuff in dowry...cheque is ok :P
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I am planning on not letting my parents get extravagant with gifts. I think a registry might work for us in order to get us the stuff we will need, or at least some of it.
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@ Zakkuta- Yar yeh jokes section nahi hai, so dnt treat it like that :) thanx.
@ CL- that's a nice idea.
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i personally hate all this "lain dain" but im leaving it to my nani jee, shez wise enuf in these matters and knows how to deal with the situation better.... :D
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nani g? why so :D wat does she have in plan for u :)
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@ Zakkuta- Yar yeh jokes section nahi hai, so dnt treat it like that :) thanx.
@ CL- that's a nice idea.
:D
i don't like such traditions...and also dont want dowry....i even think to marry in a very simple way that wont cost much to "larki wala's"....like doing a simple nikkah and then invite all larki wala's and their khandan to Valima, which i will host....InshaAllah...
but u know its not only me, to decide this...there are my cousins, sisters who already have a plan to enjoy this at fullest and do all rasm waghera....
Maan baap k lie un ki BETI zyada qeemti hoti he...and then u ask for BONUS(dowry) as well from them...too much hogaya na :P
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yea my nani jee is the head of the family....so she knows wots best....i stay outta it and let her do it :D I agree with zakutta.....everything is so simple and the girls side shudnt have to bear any major costs for a wedding....its stupid how people follow culture (rasm-rewaaj) rather than their religion wich has everything plain and simple....
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One of my distant relatives gave the pure silver dinner set, tea set, lemon set etc etc. & lot of things which are more than enough to settle their new apartment & got the whole apartment custom furniture with appliances.
And now a days Dowry is replaced with working girls. So she can bring money home.
Thats all so sad.
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*"If I don’t kill her today; tomorrow she will kill me financially or some one else will burn her for the sake of dowry," *
rationalizes the would be father of an unborn female child, at the time of deciding a premature end for her. Such is the evil of dowry. A study has revealed that an estimated one million (1,000,000 ) female foetuses are being destroyed every year in India alone where, even today the birth of a female child is viewed as a curse. As soon as a daughter is born, the family in general and the father in particular starts calculating the huge financial burden that lies ahead of him.
Whereas a Muslim father seizes, the same opportunity with both his hands as his Prophet (pbuh) has promised him heaven or paradise for bringing up his daughter the way he takes care of his male child. A Muslim father does not have to bother for dowry, as there is nothing called ‘Dowry’ in Islam. On the contrary, Islam enjoins the groom to give a ‘Bridal-Gift’ or ‘Dower’ as a token of love and assurance to his would be wife at the time of marriage.
In fact without payment of this sum, the marriage cannot get solemnized.
The Holy Qur’an instructs the believers
*"And give the women (whom you marry) their dower (obligatory bridal gift) happily" (4:4) *
The practice of dowry among ignorant Muslims is a result of the influence of the evil practices of the society we live in. Islam does not put any financial burden on the father of the girl. A Muslim father is told to get her daughter married away in a most simple ‘Nikah’ ceremony solemnized by a ‘Qazi’ (priest) in a mosque, witnessed by his close relatives and friends. He is not even required to throw a lunch on to the handful of invitees assembled for this occasion. In fact it is desirable on the part of the groom that he offers a reception (Valima) to his near ones & dear ones without forgetting the poor people of his society.
The example of such a simple marriage was set up by none other than the Prophet (pbuh) himself. He got his daughters married in the simplest possible manner. There was nothing in it whatsoever for the bridegroom that could be termed as dowry.
The Prophet (pbuh) said:
*"The best of the marriages is one which is least burdensome in the financial sense to the families of the bride and the groom"
*
Thus he paved a way for people of all times to come to live a life without stress and strain pertaining to daughters’ marriages too!
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I think it is the responsibility of the groom to provide all the necessary things of life as he has to carry it further for rest of whole life .... but our society demands these things are provided by the Brides Family and so the groom never takes responsibility ... which creates problems ... I have attended finger counting weddings where groom has refused to take even a single thing in the name of Dowry ... hats off to those grooms and their mothers.
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SHEHNAIHEELS,WHOEVER MARRIES YOU,SEE HELL IN HIS LIFE
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whoever marries you will be in hell whole life,doesnt sound right
mahira fatima same shehnaiheels sexy erotic books and film
reviever what quran says mention
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^^ that was awsome to read.....thanks for all that! :)
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I think everyone knows my stance on it...dowry is a curse.
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:D
i don't like such traditions...and also dont want dowry....i even think to marry in a very simple way that wont cost much to "larki wala's"....like doing a simple nikkah and then invite all larki wala's and their khandan to Valima, which i will host....InshaAllah...
but u know its not only me, to decide this...there are my cousins, sisters who already have a plan to enjoy this at fullest and do all rasm waghera....
Maan baap k lie un ki BETI zyada qeemti hoti he...and then u ask for BONUS(dowry) as well from them...too much hogaya na :P
Yah TOOOO much ka bi TOOO much hai :(
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Bravo! now we all need the men and their families to read this and stop being greedy! =)
*"If I don’t kill her today; tomorrow she will kill me financially or some one else will burn her for the sake of dowry," *
rationalizes the would be father of an unborn female child, at the time of deciding a premature end for her. Such is the evil of dowry. A study has revealed that an estimated one million (1,000,000 ) female foetuses are being destroyed every year in India alone where, even today the birth of a female child is viewed as a curse. As soon as a daughter is born, the family in general and the father in particular starts calculating the huge financial burden that lies ahead of him.
Whereas a Muslim father seizes, the same opportunity with both his hands as his Prophet (pbuh) has promised him heaven or paradise for bringing up his daughter the way he takes care of his male child. A Muslim father does not have to bother for dowry, as there is nothing called ‘Dowry’ in Islam. On the contrary, Islam enjoins the groom to give a ‘Bridal-Gift’ or ‘Dower’ as a token of love and assurance to his would be wife at the time of marriage.
In fact without payment of this sum, the marriage cannot get solemnized.
The Holy Qur’an instructs the believers
*"And give the women (whom you marry) their dower (obligatory bridal gift) happily" (4:4) *
The practice of dowry among ignorant Muslims is a result of the influence of the evil practices of the society we live in. Islam does not put any financial burden on the father of the girl. A Muslim father is told to get her daughter married away in a most simple ‘Nikah’ ceremony solemnized by a ‘Qazi’ (priest) in a mosque, witnessed by his close relatives and friends. He is not even required to throw a lunch on to the handful of invitees assembled for this occasion. In fact it is desirable on the part of the groom that he offers a reception (Valima) to his near ones & dear ones without forgetting the poor people of his society.
The example of such a simple marriage was set up by none other than the Prophet (pbuh) himself. He got his daughters married in the simplest possible manner. There was nothing in it whatsoever for the bridegroom that could be termed as dowry.
The Prophet (pbuh) said:
*"The best of the marriages is one which is least burdensome in the financial sense to the families of the bride and the groom" *
Thus he paved a way for people of all times to come to live a life without stress and strain pertaining to daughters’ marriages too!
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Bravo! now we all need the men and their families to read this and stop being greedy! =)
*"If I don’t kill her today; tomorrow she will kill me financially or some one else will burn her for the sake of dowry," *
rationalizes the would be father of an unborn female child, at the time of deciding a premature end for her. Such is the evil of dowry. A study has revealed that an estimated one million (1,000,000 ) female foetuses are being destroyed every year in India alone where, even today the birth of a female child is viewed as a curse. As soon as a daughter is born, the family in general and the father in particular starts calculating the huge financial burden that lies ahead of him.
Whereas a Muslim father seizes, the same opportunity with both his hands as his Prophet (pbuh) has promised him heaven or paradise for bringing up his daughter the way he takes care of his male child. A Muslim father does not have to bother for dowry, as there is nothing called ‘Dowry’ in Islam. On the contrary, Islam enjoins the groom to give a ‘Bridal-Gift’ or ‘Dower’ as a token of love and assurance to his would be wife at the time of marriage.
In fact without payment of this sum, the marriage cannot get solemnized.
The Holy Qur’an instructs the believers
*"And give the women (whom you marry) their dower (obligatory bridal gift) happily" (4:4) *
The practice of dowry among ignorant Muslims is a result of the influence of the evil practices of the society we live in. Islam does not put any financial burden on the father of the girl. A Muslim father is told to get her daughter married away in a most simple ‘Nikah’ ceremony solemnized by a ‘Qazi’ (priest) in a mosque, witnessed by his close relatives and friends. He is not even required to throw a lunch on to the handful of invitees assembled for this occasion. In fact it is desirable on the part of the groom that he offers a reception (Valima) to his near ones & dear ones without forgetting the poor people of his society.
The example of such a simple marriage was set up by none other than the Prophet (pbuh) himself. He got his daughters married in the simplest possible manner. There was nothing in it whatsoever for the bridegroom that could be termed as dowry.
The Prophet (pbuh) said:
*"The best of the marriages is one which is least burdensome in the financial sense to the families of the bride and the groom" *
Thus he paved a way for people of all times to come to live a life without stress and strain pertaining to daughters’ marriages too!