**I was forced to start this topic my friends as recently i had an argument with my mom on this topic.
Wat ive seen and have been seeing is tht in Pakistan the parents of the girl spend hundreds of thousands and lakhs of rupees on dowry. Even wen they dont have money they beg around and ask for loans and debts to gather dowry. And wen the wedding takes place they display the dowry in a room filled with those stuffs and also gets them fimed by movie cameras which is included in the wedding movies.
Do u people accept this? Is this wat your religion Islam says and is this the norm in other muslim countries around you.
Dont u think Pakistanis are following hindu traditions?
Y are women finding it difficult to get married? Aint dowry one of the reasons?
Dont u think pakistanis are completely ignorant of Islamic marriage law?
Arnt men supposed to b the one giving dowry to the women he is marrying?
Dont u guys n gals think tht u shud bring this hideos practice to end by revolting against the people who follow and will b forcing u also into it?**
mine was the first rebelious case in my family - regarding this stupid topic
I refused to accept anything - not even token gifts or anything ....
Had a simple nikah - at the brides home
no mehndi shehndi - no SHADI KA KHANAA - all BS in my opinion ..
Just a COMMON reception, on the 3rd day of the nikah - call it valima - close friends and relatives from both sides attended.
Although both parties ( my parents and her parents ) were really annoyed by this behaviour of mine - but I stood my ground. With the passage of time everything settled down nicely :)
abay unn main say koi bhi itnaa ghareeb nahi thaa - jiss kay ghar main khana bhi masjid say ataa hoo - subb hattay kattay mootay taazay mustanday thaay
Oh Come On...if there is NO dowry...how can the groom realise what he's worth, secondly the local ladies will not be able to pass judgement
ie, so and so's daughter had a ten tola gold set and this one has 9 point 8 and so and so's bahu provided the saas with a gold necklace and gold jewlry for all the daughters.
So you see gentlemen, there is plenty of good that the in the dowry
also, its the last gift that the parents make when they kick their daughter out of the house.
now i know that you guys have been indoctrinated into this political correct nonsense school of thought and you think things like dowries are outdated and obsolete but im sure if you think about it carefully there is something good which comes out of it .... no?
I have no problems accepting dowry (small gifts) if it makes the parents happy, but to go out of the way, to get loans, to beg people, just to show off, or just to please others is what I disagree with. And like I said, if the groom asks for it and gives them a list that he wants a TV, VCR, a big house, a car etc, then he's being unreasonable.
Tht was gr8 JamesbHaand wat u did. Excellent. Spread this message accross to as many people as u can. I hope these ignorant and stupid people will someday understand this problem.
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