Bibi u know how many gals in Pakistan are sitting at their homes coz they have no money for dowery stuff !
As a gal ya should think about them too !
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Bibi u know how many gals in Pakistan are sitting at their homes coz they have no money for dowery stuff !
As a gal ya should think about them too !
wel i do..............
ab ishtehar tou day nahin saktee mein..................khair app apnay liay jab kuch laytay ho tou auron k liay bhi sochtay ho..............aisa karna achee baat hai......aur jab Allah nay diya ho tou kharach karna buree baat nahin....buss auron ka bhi khayal akhain sath sath tab..........
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Patah nahi , but ya Pakistan people spend too much on wedding stuff ! very rich nation :)
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Patah nahi , but ya Pakistan people spend too much on wedding stuff ! very rich nation :)
Dekhain show off k liay karna buree baat hai.......magar self satisfaction k liay its ok..han magar dosron ka khayal bhi karna chahiay................magar ab itna tang nazar hona bhi achee baat nahin ............k kuch bhi nahin hona chahiay!!!
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Baat kanjoosi ki nahi ho rahi. Dress sirf aik dafa use karna hota hai. Itne paise sirf aik din ke liye? 
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Bibi u know how many gals in Pakistan are sitting at their homes coz they have no money for dowery stuff ! As a gal ya should think about them too !
Beautiful Dress!
With all due respect aliyish, don't you think guys should step up and stop the dowry custom, I don't see how buying a less expensive dress can help girls sitting at home unless you give your money to them, so they can buy dowry and encourage a ridiculous custom.
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Beautiful Dress!
With all due respect aliyish, don't you think guys should step up and stop the dowry custom, I don't see how buying a less expensive dress can help girls sitting at home unless you give your money to them, so they can buy dowry and encourage a ridiculous custom.
I strongly agree with you!
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Beautiful Dress!
With all due respect aliyish, don't you think guys should step up and stop the dowry custom, I don't see how buying a less expensive dress can help girls sitting at home unless you give your money to them, so they can buy dowry and encourage a ridiculous custom.
Should be done on mutal basis , if ya dont ask for loads of barii , Gold and clothes , we dont need dowery !
simple stuff innit :)
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Should be done on mutal basis , if ya dont ask for loads of barii , Gold and clothes , we dont need dowery !
simple stuff innit :)
Ok girls side doesn't demand from teh guys side... besides, the guys family will never give as much compared to the girls side (only in rare cases)...plus, the girls have to give stuff to the guys relatives as well or else it looks bad on the girls' part, even if they can't afford much they have to give something (and that something is always zevar for the future amma-in-law and sister-in-law and jethanis and devranis, and expensive watches/rings for hte guys) that her parents were too kanjoos to give anything..so yeah it does go both ways, if guys families stopped demanding/expecting anything, girls side wudnt fret so much now eh?
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the girls have to give stuff to the guys relatives as well or else it looks bad on the girls' part
No she doesn't. Don't mean to derail the thread or change its topic but I have not come across a single hadith which says that the bride or her parents have to do such a thing for the relatives of the groom and vice versa. Jiss maaN baap ne apne dil ka tukra de diya, wo aur kya deiN. Such things would not even occur if both parties knew and followed Islam where the wedding can be in a simple manner without all these* mandatory* rasm-o-riwaaj
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amma-in-law and sister-in-law and jethanis and devranis, and expensive watches/rings for hte guys) that her parents were too kanjoos to give anything..
cool, you all use the word "amma" too for mother? That's the same as what we say in our language :). how come it's so different in Hindi or Urdu....
off topic...sorry:D
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Yeah but who looks at it that way? And i’m not talking abt in our religion but in our culture… Of course ur rihgt, dil ka tukra diya (that’s such a sweet way of putting it!) there’s no bigger gift..but in our culture, that’s just not enough 
Don’t get me wrong, i’m all for rasams and stuff but only when it’s all in fun and happiness… My own parents did this custom, and even though everybody else around us was b*tching abt it (even though they had nothing to do w/ it!, they just needed to complain) they did it purely out of their own happiness and everything, not once were htey depressed or stressed out over it or think abt what my future in laws wud think… But i can still understand why beforehand, parents wud probably get stressed over this..
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No she doesn't. Don't mean to derail the thread or change its topic but I have not come across a single hadith which says that the bride or her parents have to do such a thing for the relatives of the groom and vice versa. Jiss maaN baap ne apne dil ka tukra de diya, wo aur kya deiN. Such things would not even occur if both parties knew and followed Islam where the wedding can be in a simple manner without all these* mandatory* rasm-o-riwaaj
well said...But the masla is that even though no one verbally asks 4 jehez, they expect it all the same.
A cousin of mine got married (the guy is apparently "religous"), and he was like "i dont want any jehez"... lekin itna kehna kaafi nahi hai... he shouldv'e gone out and bought reasonable furniture for his bride-to-be... all he did was renovate his room (painted it!).... so by words he was saying one thing but his actions proved otherwise... had the parents not given her a bedding set, kiya woh larhki zameen pai sooti?
if only we followed our ISLAMIC culture instead of the indian culture!
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if only we followed our ISLAMIC culture instead of the indian culture!
If only we followed Islam. Period :)
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If only we followed Islam. Period :)
i would have assumed that following the Islamic culture implied following Islam? :)
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i would have assumed that following the Islamic culture implied following Islam? :)
Islam is a religion and hidayah from Allah. It has nothing to do with culture. I do not even know if things like Islamic culture exist. :)
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Islam is a religion and hidayah from Allah. It has nothing to do with culture. I do not even know if things like Islamic culture exist. :)
acha.
what i meant by islamic culture was following the quran and sunnah in all matters. (e.g had we followed the sunnah, we would have realised that b4 the Prophet SAW gave his daughter to Hazrat Ali (r.a.) he asked him if he had anything in his house to provide 4 his daughter. Waise to Muhammad SAW ko itne toofe diya jaate the, he couldv'e had he wanted given his daughter a lot, but he didn't... he got Hazrat Ali to buy the essentials....)
but if u insist... I'll use the word Islam from now on.
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i dont mean to be picky, but the dress doens't look like it would cost Rs 75k. did u bargain well? or is it a brand name waala?
i'm only asking bcoz i've seen my cousins getting married and theirs looked similar but didn't cost anywhere near as much.
Maybe they got it from a different city where prices are lower? I've heard that abt lahore vs karachi (some clothes are cheaper in Lhr, sarees are cheaper in KHI etc..)
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No she doesn't. Don't mean to derail the thread or change its topic but I have not come across a single hadith which says that the bride or her parents have to do such a thing for the relatives of the groom and vice versa. Jiss maaN baap ne apne dil ka tukra de diya, wo aur kya deiN. Such things would not even occur if both parties knew and followed Islam where the wedding can be in a simple manner without all these* mandatory* rasm-o-riwaaj
galz who dont bring dowry have to suffer a lot. extremely rich guy side n extremely poor guy side act the same way. even if a guy side is nicer one still ppl of their surroundings make their life hell, which they furhter transfer it to the bride an her parents.
p.s. dont tell me u havent heard of "choloon (oven) ka phatna"
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unfortunetly lajo, that’s not what desis or desi parents think like. 