Recently this topic has come up a few times, first this beautiful girl at the wedding. She is not interested in marrying and just wants to date and was saying that Desi men who have no problems dating western women will have a problem with a desi girl who has been in relationships. Last evening I was discussing the same topic with my wife and she mentioned how proud my sister was and how impressed the community was with my nephew's foreign wife. They lived together for a few years before they married and my wife thinks if it was a desi girl living with the husband before marriage then people would be ripping her apart.
I witnessed the double standards at the resort also, my wife's BIL would make such a fuss about halal food when he would come to our house, at the resort many were very adherent Muslims with Hijabi wives and were gobbling up nonhalal chunks of meat.
One example is that both my wife’s nephews are quite secular and are cultural Muslims who will sometimes drink n stuff but in front of other Muslims would act like they are believers and don’t drink. At the resort Mehndi there was no Alcohol at the venue, so if Islamic values are important then why have a wedding at an all-inclusive resort where alcohol is free flowing?
Safy and myself went to sports bar, enjoyed beer, nachos and burritos and played doubles pool with a beautiful Canadian couple. The double standards people miss out on this.
being true to oneself is what you see is what you get.
Totally agree with u … we desis not only do we have double standards, but most of us are fake and not true to oneself ( as u put it ) especially men more than women
There needs to be doubles standard. Case in point - the doubles side,ines in tennis is different than singles during service. Some are against doubles, satiating only mixed doubles should be legal.
I cant get over the fact that people who would give you nasty stares at home for eating non Zabeeha were gobbling up the yummy grilled meat at the Brazilian steak house and they start the function with tilawat and then women are jumping 6 ft in the air with ghair murds. I have no problems with personal choices but only with hypocrisy.
I’m okay with “hypocritical Muslims” if they keep the same energy for everyone. If they like to partake in sins, whatever. However, the minute these types turn into 5-minute mullahs that want to police everyone else and try to act all pious is when it becomes hilarious.
About the halal food thing, they may eat only halal if it’s easily available but make special exceptions in places like a Mexican resort where halal food may not be available. I don’t see that as hypocrisy.
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About the halal food thing, they may eat only halal if it’s easily available but make special exceptions in places like a Mexican resort where halal food may not be available. I don’t see that as hypocrisy.
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The resort had heaps of fish, fruits and vegetables, they ate mounds of sizzling meat at the Brazilian Steak House where giant slabs of seared prime rib, sirloin, tenderloin, lamb, chicken were brought to the tables. Why do a wedding there to begin with if Islamic tradition is important to them? there were rivers of alcohol flowing there and the bar at Mehndi did not serve alcohol..lol. I just walked 20 feet to another and got my Margarita there.
Margarita is a cocktail, so yummy, they serve it in frosted glasses there. They also made happy faces in my lattes, closest experience to being in heaven, thousands of people scrubbing, cooking, cleaning and serving you.