Why do some guys make different rules for their wives and their sisters??
Why is it ok for their sisters to study and work, but they don’t want their wife to work, they’d rather have her stay home with the kids??
Why is it ok for their sisters to act like little girls, when they are older then their wife, but they think that their spouse needs to grow up??
Who said "They dont want their wives to work"? I dont mind if she does, but she cant at the moment because our girl is only two months old. I would like her to work & she wants to work as a kindergarton School teacher. I never agreed with my sister to work though, even she wanted to work at one stage of her life but then cancelled that idea. I dont mind if she (my sister) works now because now she is mature enough to understand the ups & down of her life.
But as far as your question is concerned, in some cases when the age gap is bigger between wife's age & sisters age then sometimes men make different decision for them. All the cases depends upon the individuals, you cant generalize it for all men.
thank god it is SOME guyz and not all om them
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Najim bhai i said ‘some’ men
You have more rights over your wife than you do your sister.
However, a man should be fair, regardless.
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Originally posted by CoolDude:
**You have more rights over your wife than you do your sister.
However, a man should be fair, regardless.**
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Cooldude I would call it Control rather than Rights.
No....let's not blow this thread into what it isn't.
It's not a matter of control because my brothers had more control over me than they had on their wives, that much is for sure. And I've seen the same example in other families around me.
And Cooldude, correct me if I am wrong, but you are using the term "Rights" as in the religious interpretation of duties and obligations.
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Originally posted by appkiamaanat:
*Why is it ok for their sisters to study and work, but they don't want their wife to work, they'd rather have her stay home with the kids??
Why is it ok for their sisters to act like little girls, when they are older then their wife, but they think that their spouse needs to grow up?? *
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You must have some specific case in mind, because this might not be a true generalization.
Its true that if my sister is unmarried, I'd want her to get as much education as she wants and be a career girl or whatever, but once she is married I expect her to work out her priorities with her husband.
As far as wife is concerned, more and more guys are appreciating the choices made by women with regard to career and professions.
However, many couples agree that when a child is born, and till s/he is atleast 2-3 years old (school-going age) one parent should take a leave from work to take care of the kids, and the wife, therefore takes a break. Some woman refuse to do so, in which case the kids go to a caregiver or day care from a very early age. Its a matter of choice. Some woman just don't want to work, given a choice. That is fine. Many families are single-earner units and as long as economic are fine, u can go by it.
In such cases, I think it doesn't matter if the woman is a wife or a sister. If she asks for advice, she will get it. Its obvious that a husband-wife relationship means more understanding and discussion on matters relating to the kids than a brother-sister relationship.
Yep apki, so true. The contradictions.
And it's so sad ... so sad to the point that if you're trying to prove that it's not right, well it's toughies cuz you yourself will be the one end up being the victim - the one who gets hurt.
Such a raw end of the deal i swear.
The generalities are strange. More so because of the topic of this thread.
My eldest sister is pursuing her career as a doctor and has all the intentions of actively continuing it (though she has been taking breaks here and there because of her children), her suggestion for me is not to go for a career woman.
So, its not only men...
scratch - exactly.
other ppl's opinions affect you so much that even you yourself begin to think they're right and you're the one confused as to which path, which decision, which identity to pick and choose.
i hate that.
I would love for my wife to work. She could me sugar mama and I can have the babies for her at home
What are you on about? I'm gonna refuse to marry any girl my mum picks out forme who is not earning in excess of $40,000 at the point of marriage and who doesn't have good prospects for future substantial pay rises!!!!!
Not me. Wife studied while we had 4 kids. She is BS going for MS. I work and study. Help around house, diaper changes, etc. I think you are generalizing?