I am talking about muslim men here.
If any of them marries a revert, they are willing to forget their past bcoz all what happened was when they had not seen the light. Religiously also their sins are forgiven after accepting Islam. However, if its a muslim woman who was into adultery or something they will not accept it.
Is it double standards?
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oh yes it is. one of my friend engagement was broke because
she told her fiance about her ex boy friend and didnt like it..but he him self had 2-3 affairs before getting engage to my friend
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I am not talking about guys who themselves had affairs, i am talking about those who are clean in their own lives.
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No it is not.
revert or not, simply tell all the stuff you have done, honestly, before entering into relationship.
If he can accept it then then he would, otherwise bye bye
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I'm inclined to say no here. To compare apples to apples, we'd have to see if they would react differently to a woman (hypothetically) involved in adultery after conversion. If they would, I could consider that double standards.
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I don't think it's double standards. I think they expect from a born muslim to have a better attitude.
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I don't think it's double standards. I think they expect from a born muslim to have a better attitude.
Exactly. A revert may not have been exposed to the right or wrong of Islam, however someone who is born Muslim should know better.
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I am talking about muslim men here.
If any of them marries a revert, they are willing to forget their past bcoz all what happened was when they had not seen the light. Religiously also their sins are forgiven after accepting Islam. However, if its a muslim woman who was into adultery or something they will not accept it.
Is it double standards?
umm some people might still accept it if the entire situation has been honestly narrated to them. However most men wouldn't because
And muslim women too would definitely think twice before agreeing to marry a person who admits that's he committed zinna or fornication or done other wrong things. It's but natural.
A revert whereas accepted Islam on his/her own will and accepted it with all it's hard facts ...which is very appreciable and difficult at the same time. So that makes things different. They choose to do the right thing when nobody around them told them the wrong was wrong - and that makes all the difference in the world IMO :)
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Well even the non muslims know adultery is wrong, atleast most do except athiests.
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^Hey now that’s not true! there are atheists whose morals will put you to shame. So let’s not get into this Atheist/theist argument. 
Atheists are not immoral people. They believe in tangible consequencies. Being throwin in hell and stuff will not scare an atheist but the thought of living with an STD will.
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Exactly. A revert may not have been exposed to the right or wrong of Islam, however someone who is born Muslim should know better.
True.....but being born into a Muslim family does not necessarily a Muslim make.
Let's compare two individuals......one revert and one born Muslim but both have undergone the same level of Islamic education.
How many examples of this kind do you think will exist?
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i bet this is because the convert is hot/exotic, while the other one isn't.
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hmmm...if you have a strong relationship with ALLAH SWT then whether any one rejects you or accepts you it really doesnt bother you.
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I am not saying that Athiests are immoral, but they may not consider pre-marital sex as something immoral.
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True.....but being born into a Muslim family does not necessarily a Muslim make. Let's compare two individuals......one revert and one born Muslim but both have undergone the same level of Islamic education.
How many examples of this kind do you think will exist?
Agreed. Which is why those of us who are "born" Muslim should not take it for granted. Learn about Islam, try to become a better Muslim.
I think that everyone has a choice: Either you believe or you don't, reverts have made that active decision, while many born Muslims just plod along.
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Adultery is not favoured in any religion ( at least thats what i know of) so yes thats double standard...
What is bad is bad, muslim or not
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Yes.
The decision to reject should be based on decision maker's impartiality.
And that should be the same for anyone regardless if that person is revert or born muslim.
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Its better to keep mouth shut if you getting married dont ask how many times she been shagged and dont tell how many times you have shagged. Better not to look into past.
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Purity is the best policy :P