Why are we such suckers for punishment? Do you forgive easy, go back for more? Get hurt thrice over and still not hold any hard feelings? Want to move on from those that ache your heart yet feel like you can’t? Be it love, be it friends or family..you are resigning yourself to be a doormat to this world?
It's unfortunate, but sometimes forgiving people are taken advantage of. One should always look out for themselves first. Best of luck :)
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i hear ya 
some people walk all over others, life. please be careful of users and leeches that are out there. be strong.
How do you not forgive someone you love? Say with family, no matter what they do, how they might hurt you, it's really hard to say you've had enough, this is it! Sometimes there are ties you can never sever.. it's all the more worse when the other party realizes that..they end up taking advantage of it.
One wonders, what's worse, to live with constant betrayal and heartache or to break it off and hurt forever regardless? You just can't win.
Yup..forgivers usually get trodden over nowadays....funny aint it ?
Yes we all need to learn how to love ourselves, stand up for our rights, and it can be difficult! Time is a great teacher.
Yes, what I refer to as "playing the martyr"...as I read in a book once.
hayaa, family being the exception, why should a person keep forgiving someone if they continuously hurt them.
On a general note, is it selfish do you think for a person to cut contact with someone not because they are being hurtful but because you are afraid of your own weaknesses, sensitivity and vulnerability to being hurt? So in reality the problem might be you not them. Does that give you a right to get up and walk away before you crumble youself?
life,
what do you think about suspending contact for a long period of time without giving very solid reasons but just saying ‘i’m busy, so i need time on my own for some time. i still care for you and wish you the best and will contact u when time allows me. its not because of any fault of yours that i am cutting contact for now.’
would u be very hurt if u were in touch with a friend, of the same gender btw, like twice a week over phone and once a week over person for abt two yrs and they abruptly did this? u know they r going thru a tough time…and u r the one who almost all the time contacts them, they never contact u anyways but now they have stopped taking ur calls and anwering ur emails…from ur side the relationship was very close but from their side it was special but they werent particularly close to u, actually they were close but dint confide in u, u were close to them tho n confided in them abt everything…there is no contact for months but u know they plan to contact u sometime in the future, prolly soon…
how would u feel then? do u think the other person is being very selfish?
just wondering to see what others opinions r on this…
thx 
sometimes i wonder .........why ppl want to plan their part on the basis of other ppl's response........like if someone trears you badly you r waiting for your turn to do so .........what's the difference then......may be i'm wrong but i really like to practice "do good , have good"
yes it happens that return of your favours / being good is totally bad but it wasn't in your hands......so why not try your best to keep your part ok .....afterall you will have to answer about your part n not for the other person .......!!!!! sigh
No, it isn’t easy being a “martyr” because you have to consider your own self-respect while being sensitive to other people’s issues and feelings at the same time. It’s a tough balance but once you’ve mastered the art of combining both, it becomes alot simpler. You emit the glow of confidence and care. Nonetheless, at the end of the day, I think it is most important to ensure that your self-esteem stays intact on top of all else. Without your dignity, you have nothing to build on.