don't you just hate it when ppl come crawling out of the woodwork....

[lipstick]

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@aurchaepiyo

Yeah, you know I have to say I brag about Pakistani hospitality: this is one of Pakistani culture's greatest strengths. I'm kind of surprised at Pakistanis whinging about helping out a guest. Seems like some of you guys have forgotten your roots.

i agree and we would have had no problems helping out a guest. if his father called us a week before we would have found him a room to rent and it would not be a problem him joining us for iftari in the evenings etc. it's him LIVING with us that is creating the problem. i'm at work right now and so are my parent's. currently he is alone in the house right now. my sister does not feel comfortable being alone in the house with him and neither is my dad happy with it. so she is staying out the whole day until we come home.

[Iconoclast]

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Modern living is lot different than the traditional one, where guests could stay for months.

[LittleFairyPrincess]

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@el_topo

Lipstick, is this change in attitude because he is easy on the eye? Hmm?

thats EXACTLY what i was thinking! :D

[lipstick]

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well ur wrong with ur ghatiya thinking :D

i felt sorry for him cos i realised he must be missing his parents and family.

[fat_spartan]

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Any progress in finding him accommodation?

[LittleFairyPrincess]

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@lipstick

well ur wrong with ur ghatiya thinking :D

i felt sorry for him cos i realised he must be missing his parents and family.

couldnt you feel sorry for him earlier on before he came? he would still miss his parents and family. whats the difference?

[lipstick]

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^ because i don't know him and had never met him before. my anger was directed more towards his dad. i just think it's rude to inform someone 2 days beforehand that someone is arriving without even asking if it's ok. he had plenty of time to inform us.

[lipstick]

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Any progress in finding him accommodation?

nope not yet... my dad offered to book him into a hotel and pay for it until a room is found for him but he said no. so that has made things akward.

[s_mk]

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I dont see what the big deal is...its just two weeks, not the entire duration of the course.
I bet the guy isnt too happy about it either.

[partyslims]

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lipstick, I totally empathize with you and your family; awkward situation to be put in. The only strange part i find is that they called you on the 23rd, and the dude is already there on the 25th!! Jeez! What if you guys were out of town or weren't able to accomadate him? Talk about piss poor planning by his family.

[el_topo]

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@lipstick

well ur wrong with ur ghatiya thinking :D

i felt sorry for him cos i realised he must be missing his parents and family.

Aw man, and there I was thinking it was all going to turn out like a Sooraj Barjatya movie.

[PrinceMS]

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I think really depends on the character of family / person. If you don't know - then its a simple NO.

You can say we will arrange for two days, while looking for a permanent place.

[diamond321]

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@lipstick

:hinna:

sooo yesterday evening i just got in from work and i was relaxing when the phone rang. i answered it and it was a man from pakistan who wanted to speak to my father. i told him he’s not at home and i took down his name. dad comes home and i tell him ‘farooq uncle’ called from pakistan for u… and my dad’s like who the heck is farooq?? anyway after a while my dad remembers and he’s like ohhh him, he hasn’t called me for 20 years! my dad didn’t call him back cos he didn’t have his number.

today that same guy called from pakistan and this time my dad was at home and answered… well it turns out that his son has landed himself a student visa to and is coming here to study on an english language course and he wants my dad to pick him up from the airport, keep him in our house until the course starts in two weeks and in the mean time find him somewhere to live!! i was like WTFFF nooo wayyy he is NOT staying with us!! am i being selfish here? i mean this guy has not called my dad in 20 years, not even when my grandfather died and now all of a sudden his son is landing tomorrow evening and he expects my dad to pick him up, let him live with us and find him somewhere suitable to live.

maybe i’m crazy but shouldn’t they have thought about all these things before applying for a visa and buying a ticket?? we have no idea who the son is and what he is like. on top of that we are all out during the day so what is he supposed to do alone in the house all day? none of us like the idea of him being alone in our house. on top of that my dad is really busy with work and he could do without the stress of finding him somewhere to live.

what do we doooooo??

one of my dad’s brother i.e. my uncle was in same situation. A friend of my uncle planned to send his son to US for studies so he decided that his son will live with my uncle. Now this guy and his son decided everything and did not even bother to inform my uncle. My dad also knew this guy , so one day he mentioned how he is going to send his son to USA and he is going to stay with your brother. My dad was pretty shocked to hear that because my uncle has 4 daughters (all of them being above 15) my dad was not at all comfortable with this idea. In fact we all were not it was a big NO NO in our family. So my dad spoke with uncle he too was shocked that everything in planned and done and he does not even know that a guy is coming to stay in his house for like next 2 years. Anyway my uncle turned down his request , it did not matter to him how much that guy would mind offcourse his daughter’s interest matter the most to him.

Having said above , I think it’s fine to accommodate a guest for 2 weeks BUT with young girls in the house the situation gets a little weird & I feel it should not happen. That Farooq uncle of yours should have realised it. Your dad should excuse himself from this responsibility.