I’ve come across uglies (not ugliest) of people on GS(online),more than in real life (offline), maybe because the anonymity makes it easier to unleash our uglies.
Or is it something else? Why don’t we pass what we think through a polite filter before saying it?
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Isn't "judge" the word used for passive offence.
When you want to control what other people think about thing privately?
What is wrong with the world. How much control it needs over individuals...
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Or even this: Ask yourself which one is real you? The filtered one or the anonymous one. Stay true to yourself.
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Isn't "judge" the word used for passive offence. When you want to control what other people think about thing privately?
What is wrong with the world. How much control it needs over individuals...
Come to think of it, passive seems better than the active ones we see on here. But, what you think ultimately comes out in what you say. We can always rephrase what we say in a polite manner.
Control?
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Or even this: Ask yourself which one is real you? The filtered one or the anonymous one. Stay true to yourself.
Are you unreal if you rephrase(filter) what you say and make it polite?
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Come to think of it, passive seems better than the active ones we see on here. But, what you think ultimately comes out in what you say. We can always rephrase what we say in a polite manner. Control?
So we have to polite. Thats a good start.
Much better then stopping people from thinking.
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perhaps some people believe that the message they are trying to deliver is less likely to be refuted if they come across in an aggressive manner?
perhaps they believe that they are more right than others? 
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But if they knew they were less right then others, would they not have corrected them self ?
You know updating their thinking ..
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Are you unreal if you rephrase(filter) what you say and make it polite?
To me, filter is not same as rephrase. Rephrase is an attempt to understand and make understand. Filter is to avoid saying something you feel, good or bad. ( Reminds me of Dido: 'But if I didn't say it, well I'd still have felt it. Where's the sense in that?' )
If a person is impolite when they think they are anonymous, then that is the person's true self. Perhaps, they just pretend to be polite in real life.
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This is on online forum where you do not see person's facial expressions, tone, gestures to really judge their personality. In real life - all these things make a hell of a difference. Words are words - they could be interpreted in many different ways.
Anyone who works in a large organisation can probably tell how some people's attitude and personality in person is so different from what you get in emails - again words have this shortcoming.
For example - You can throw an F bomb here, and look like the rudest, filthiest person alive. But in real life, you can use F word in various forms and ways, in fact use it multiple times in a sentence, and chances are you would neither offend anyone, look totally harmless, normal, and may end having a comical effect on listeners. I have seen people who made their audience laugh by just swearing!
Some people who use these forums as social networking sites take some people's posting style just way too seriously. It should be about content.
Yes anonymity does pay a big role - hardly a shocking factor. In real life, if we could really get away with saying things the way we really want them to say - we so would!
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I don't know if people are angels in real life. But if I had the option of picking up the phone, speak to someone in different department and say something like "I am so bloody sick and tired of your bureaucratic bull crap - someone's life depends on this and all you care about your stupid systems. Hell with your system. You have absolutely no reason to put this on hold. You are just being incompetent. I am right and I want this thing done right now. "
I would so do it, if I wasn't restricted by personal, professional, legal, social constrains, and if there were no practical consequence of my behaviour whatsoever, I would totally speak my mind!
So yes on internet if you are anonymous and the person you are taking to is a complete and utter stranger, and totally anonymous - you wouldn't give a damn about sugar quoting your words especially if it is a topic you passionately feel about.
Human beings are incredibly flawed you know.
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strong minds, strong opinions, strong words.
weak minds, weak opinions, weak words.
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"Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder." - Rumi
I love this quotation.
And I do think that it's possible to, even in the slightest way, show your feelings and express some level of emotion, through only words.
strong minds, strong opinions, strong words.
weak minds, weak opinions, weak words.
I've seen some pretty strong opinions and words come from weak minds that lack even the ability to follow simple logic.
Perhaps it depends on one's interpretation of "strong" and "weak".
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Rumi ne mehfil loot li 
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Or even this: Ask yourself which one is real you? The filtered one or the anonymous one. Stay true to yourself.
Winner of the Internets today.
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Come to think of it, passive seems better than the active ones we see on here.
Isn't this a tad judgmental?
Little bit of free expression is ok, IMO. We don't want to be robots.
By the way, how are you doing today. I am doing fine, thank you.
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"Raise your hands if you are sure" - Anon.
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But if they knew they were less right then others, would they not have corrected them self ? You know updating their thinking ..
Does this really happen in religion - updating ones thinking?