don't label unmarried girls as snobbish or picky

[NaMaan]

@Spock

Hey whats wrong with undergrads Im still two classes away from a masters/grad degree But honestly, its Ive discovered while working hands on, that a masters degree is just an expensive piece of paper.

Tell me about it … freaken waste of money, energy, time etc etc … :pcg:

@ Cat-woman … The best person is the one who you end up with. So don’t sweat too much over it. InshaAllah you’ll end up with someone good. :k:

Btw why men are so carefree when it comes to matrimonial thinking … are we careless by default ?

[Straight_up]

@NaMaan

Tell me about it … freaken waste of money, energy, time etc etc … :pcg:

@ Cat-woman … The best person is the one who you end up with. So don’t sweat too much over it. InshaAllah you’ll end up with someone good. :k:

**Btw why men are so carefree when it comes to matrimonial thinking … are we careless by default ?

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Dude, why do you come in rubbing this to our faces every so often

[RealityCheck]

@mama_ki_dua

Catwoman I dont think you should marry the guy that you are talking about ( the undergrad.) Don't worry it's perfectly fine to be picky. I'm really picky when it comes to these things.

And how many men have you picked and married so far ?

:D

Isn't it something you do once in a lifetime ?

[NaMaan]

@Straight_up

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Dude, why do you come in rubbing this to our faces every so often

app ko tung ker ka maza ata ha

[RealityCheck]

Re: don't label unmarried girls as snobbish or picky

CW, How about telling us something about your qualifications and looks ?

The only problem I see in your situation is his education. Looks really don't matter for men.

Also, your parents are the best judge as far as looking for KHANDANI, SHAREEF man for you. Give your brain a rest and let the parents do their job...

[Monk]

Re: don't label unmarried girls as snobbish or picky

yeah cat woman, i dont know where you coming from.

Just like date and stuff, you find a sucker.

[Sara516]

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you'lre looking down on him b/c he went to a so-so university and is only an undergrad. if that's not picky/snobby then what is?

[Mabrook]

Re: don't label unmarried girls as snobbish or picky

its ok to look for someone that is equal to u in looks ,education n statuswise.but if u havn't find him for that long don't keep waiting.pick the most suitable one.in the end only thing that matters after marriage is a guy that is caring,understanding,responsible n committed.So if hes shareef,has good reputation in n around family,hardworking chances r might take gud care of u.n ppl with good qualities always win others hearts over time rather than those with looks plus attitude.

[Iggle]

@cat-woman

My family is trying to get me to talk to this guy who is from an ‘acha khandaan’ and is ‘very shareef’ and I agreed to look into it, but I stated flatly my demands and what I expect and also indicated that looks-wise he doesn’t appeal to me at all. Now I’m getting told that I shouldn’t have so much pride and don’t look at the looks, guys blossom after marriage etc. I also got put off that he went to a so-so university and not a top one and only has an undergrad.

But given that I’m in my late 20s, been through several rishta procedures where the guys turned out to be total asses and left me wailing, I had to get together my self-confidence, make myself who I am today and figure out what it is I want.

Now I appreciate the family looking after my future, but I cannot be arsed to talk to guys anymore. It seems like a futile set-up, and so contrived coz I know as soon as I start communicating with him, everyone will want to know whats going on.

Just leave me alone :hoonh:

How many rishta’s have you turned down?

I don’t think it is fair for someone to look down on someone who is just an undergraduate or who hasn’t been to a top university. Did you go to go to Oxford or Cambridge btw? I agree with Sara516. I went to a top uni’ myself and have never cared if so-so has even an ex-polytechnic degree.

Regarding looks - well I think your sister is right. We need to look at ourselves properly.

Also, what if that successful, good looking guy’s luck changes one day?! Or after marriage he loses his job because of his temper, just wears sweaty t-shirts, smells, farts in bed all day and becomes a lazy couch potato?

Don’t put looks on top of your list because its not as important.

A love forged in flames: The awe-inspiring story of how a badly-burned soldier married his sweetheart | Mail Online

[kakaballi]

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do 'snobbish' and 'picky' in teens and early 20s turn into 'compromising' in late 20s?

[initiator]

@iggle

How many rishta’s have you turned down?

I don’t think it is fair for someone to look down on someone who is just an undergraduate or who hasn’t been to a top university. Did you go to go to Oxford or Cambridge btw? I agree with Sara516. I went to a top uni’ myself and have never cared if so-so has even an ex-polytechnic degree.

Regarding looks - well I think your sister is right. We need to look at ourselves properly.

Also, what if that successful, good looking guy’s luck changes one day?! Or after marriage he loses his job because of his temper, just wears sweaty t-shirts, smells, farts in bed all day and becomes a lazy couch potato?

Don’t put looks on top of your list because its not as important.

A love forged in flames: The awe-inspiring story of how a badly-burned soldier married his sweetheart | Mail Online

That is just beautiful.

[mama_ki_dua]

@RealityCheck

And how many men have you picked and married so far ?

:D

Isn't it something you do once in a lifetime ?

I was talking about the rishtas not the amount of marriages. If you're not happy with the rishtas you just keep on saying NO. Simple :)

[Straight_up]

Re: don't label unmarried girls as snobbish or picky

If ladies don't want to see beyond the surface, I think then they're doing the world a favour by not getting married. Stay single, stop crying about it. End of story.

[kakaballi]

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Some girls do see beyond surface. One rejected a rishta suggestion from my mother (for me, ofcourse) because I did not have a compatible 'sense of humor' :D She married another guy who had such a nice sense of humor that he divorced her 2 months after the wedding.

[inzi_rocks]

@kakaballi

Some girls do see beyond surface. One rejected a rishta suggestion from my mother (for me, ofcourse) because I did not have a compatible ‘sense of humor’ She married another guy who had such a nice sense of humor that he divorced her 2 months after the wedding.

sorry but

[Dr.LuLworth]

@cat-woman

My family is trying to get me to talk to this guy who is from an ‘acha khandaan’ and is ‘very shareef’ and I agreed to look into it, but I stated flatly my demands and what I expect and also indicated that looks-wise he doesn’t appeal to me at all. Now I’m getting told that I shouldn’t have so much pride and don’t look at the looks, guys blossom after marriage etc. I also got put off that he went to a so-so university and not a top one and only has an undergrad.

But given that I’m in my late 20s, been through several rishta procedures where the guys turned out to be total asses and left me wailing, I had to get together my self-confidence, make myself who I am today and figure out what it is I want.

Now I appreciate the family looking after my future, but I cannot be arsed to talk to guys anymore. It seems like a futile set-up, and so contrived coz I know as soon as I start communicating with him, everyone will want to know whats going on.

Just leave me alone

Don’t label you as snobbish? It’s not going to stay with you forever you know. You will get old, and you will come down to earth someday. We are witnessing a story from you whose other half isn’t revealed. Women lie. I suspect you aren’t telling us the truth. Just my opinion.

[Magic_8_Ball]

Compromising is necessary but if one feels so strongly that they can't be with the person, then it's better just say no to the proposal. What's the point in ruining the other person's life and yours as well? It's best to let the person go, so he/she can find someone who wants to marry them. Both men and women have their criteria for what they want in a partner. And both genders and their families can discriminate based on many things that might seem picky to others. If a person feels that they absolutely cannot bring themselves to get to know the potential suitor, then let the rishta go. I hope the poster will soon find a man whom she feels more compatible with on many levels.

[Lusi]

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chicken biryani, your nick make me crave chicken biryani

[naqsa]

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^ I know...SAME HERE!!!

[Magic_8_Ball]

Re: don't label unmarried girls as snobbish or picky

Mmmm biryani sounds good! Now I'm hungry too! I'm having palak paneer, which is pretty good too:)