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The person said karatay though :p not karate :PP so it must be something else :D since he's sooo smart and thinks the people in the military are "semi retards with low grades in school"
I missed your sarcastic question.......................:D
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Thats selfish don't you think? You want this poor girl to stop the young man from pursuing his dream because they are in a relationship? They will be plenty of other guys even if she lets go of this one.
sometimes people don't know what is best for them.
he's a med student.
wanting to go into a high intensity military job.
healer to hunter? I mean please.
his parents are against it. It's either military or her.
People aren't replaceable, job options are.
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sometimes people don't know what is best for them. he's a med student. wanting to go into a high intensity military job. healer to hunter? I mean please.
his parents are against it. It's either military or her.
People aren't replaceable, job options are.
I thought his parents wanted him to be a doctor not him? Doesn't he get a choice? lol
You chose to marry a military guy how could you not know the risks etc
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Why not join a karatay club. Joining army just for physical challenge seems limiting. Typically army in west is for semi retards with low grades in school.
Pakistani soldiers are as retarded as the ones in the West, if not more.
He actually doesn't want to desert. He always says that if you want to do anything, do it whole-heartedly. he's only doing it to compromise with me, even though I didn't ask him to.
You are holding him back. You should call it quits and let him focus on his career.
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You don't know what kinds of people you will be in 5 years. You may change the way you feel, and so could he. Also, deserting his post isn't the best idea, if he's going to do that he may as well not join at all.
I think you should approach your parents and ask them for advice. They'll probly say no way, but at least they can speak to his parents and consider options.
v true point
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Is He thinking of His Dream now !! being a Medical Student
If you are so supporting him to follow his dreams - i suggest you follow his recommendation to Not Wait
Med school was never his dream.. he did it because of his parents, but now he just can't anymore. Hmm okay ouch..
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3-5 years vs. the rest of our lives.. is it really that bad?
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Is He thinking of His Dream now !! being a Medical Student
If you are so supporting him to follow his dreams - i suggest you follow his recommendation to Not Wait
Well med school was only because his parents wanted him to, but now he just can't continue. Hmm really.. ouch
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in my naakis opinion I would if you really love him let him follow his dream and you move on and save yourself the heartache, 5 years is a long time and as someone pointed out you dont know how much you might change in that period. Goodluck !!
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5 years is a long time. How old are you right now? And how long / well do you know each other? I can understand your parents being concerned for you to get married / engaged. The deserting thing sounds ridiculous and pretty immature. I think it's only viable if you both get introduced to each other's parents and something 'official' happens such an engagement. Even then, long distance is really tough and not many relationships would last for that long, esp with the distance. Good luck!
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in my naakis opinion I would if you really love him let him follow his dream and you move on and save yourself the heartache, 5 years is a long time and as someone pointed out you dont know how much you might change in that period. Goodluck !!
About the changing part.. people can also change being together, can they not? Though, I get the point.. thanks.
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5 years is a long time. How old are you right now? And how long / well do you know each other? I can understand your parents being concerned for you to get married / engaged. The deserting thing sounds ridiculous and pretty immature. I think it's only viable if you both get introduced to each other's parents and something 'official' happens such an engagement. Even then, long distance is really tough and not many relationships would last for that long, esp with the distance. Good luck!
We're both 23 and have known each other for almost two years. I'm really trying to not walk around being blindfolded, but the truth is too hard to cope with right now. The only option right now is to tell my elder sister, but I don't want to tell her about the military. I want her to meet him first. is that cheating? Thank you though.
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I thought his parents wanted him to be a doctor not him? Doesn't he get a choice? lol You chose to marry a military guy how could you not know the risks etc
I think she seriously needs to sit and evaluate what she can tolerate and what she can't. People who marry into the military need to have a lot of "sabr". To deal with the risk of your loved one being in constant danger as a job requirement takes a special kind of courage. Not everyone has it, not everyone can develop it.
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Its a bulletin board kakee not a spelling bee competition. Desi version iskaratay and given the audience appropriate. Now are you serving or plan to serve? Just because I think they are dim wits with half a brain.. should not deter you or anyone else. If no one joined the military imagine who will use all the weapons made by folks with a full size brain?
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If you plan to tell your sister don't play games - tell her the facts
he can visit fir 45 days. That is long enough and gives plenty of bonding time.
If he plans to desert in 3 years his reasons for joining the legion are terrible. He is in it for the thrills and nothing more. It also shows lack of maturity and more importantly integrity.
If he drops his career for you in 3 years - he will resent you rest of his life.
So both of you need to show maturity and do the right thing. No deserting no holding back facts from sister. Be adults.
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Don't stop him from pursuing his dreams.
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I think introducing him to your older sister is a good idea. I don't think you need to bring in the military issue the very first time she meets him. The way I see it, it's not lying but you're just withholding info. I would tell her later though. BTW - what are the chances of him actually getting into the Legion? I'm assuming they don't just take anyone walking off the street? Is there a chance he might not even get in?
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Thank you all for your replies.
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Any updates to the situation?