I just don’t get it when people say that. What does it even mean? I mean, if you don’t want me to form an opinion about you based upon your actions and words, then maybe you should change them. I don’t know. Maybe I misunderstand the phrase. What do you guys think it means to “judge” someone?
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most of the time it means that what they are saying is not what they actually wanted to do. Many time reason was not given by them but we should respect their concern because if they are requesting it, its mean they understand the positives and negatives of other side. 
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I say
Judge me all you want but please keep the verdict to yourself unless I plead for it.
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yes let me do everything I want..even if it’s inappropriate..but hey don’t judge me 
I too fail to understand this at times
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at times we do not know WHY is that person doing it and we just pass the judgement.
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Oh gosh I dunno. Sometimes it's just as simple as....if I can't do something, or if I accomplished something, don't go to deep in analyzing it and saying that my accomplishment isn't an accomplishment or find other reasons for why I can't do something.
For example--I can say "I just made the best cake ever"....unfairly judging would be someone lecturing me on my weight and diet and all that when it's not welcome or asked for.
Idk.
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Means not to formulate an opinion about them based on the known knowns of the said person or what they choose to disclose about themselves, since there is more to them than the impression their certain actions, words would imply. I dunno.
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that is why I said, at times. It’s like this somebody does dankay ki chot par something wrong and then says don’t judge me 
that kind of behavior is what I don’t understand at all.
However, if somebody is living their life doing something on their own but are not actually continuously complaining about people ‘judging’ them, I wouldn’t bother them either.
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But don't we all judge everyone and everything no matter if we are told 'not to judge' or not??
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But don't we all judge everyone and everything no matter if we are told 'not to judge' or not??
Yes we all judge, and often we find that the impression someone gave based on our limited interaction was far from their true self, no?
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Yes we all judge, and often we find that the impression someone gave based on our limited interaction was far from their true self, no?
True.
And that is just not so right.We as humans are quick to judge and reach conclusions..!
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"Dont judge me" and "I hope you dont mind me saying that" are the most oxymoronic phrases ever - because they know that we are going to judge them, and they know that we would mind what they are about to say
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^ add "[Please] dont get me wrong" to the oxymoronic list too :)
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Criticizing/bashing others who don't hold the same opinion or who don't have the same morals as you. When one acts as if they have the moral high ground or is better than someone else and tries to belittle them by nitpicking or making negative/false assumptions without knowing the full background story or reasons for the other person's behavior. People somehow want everyone to make the same decisions that they think are 'right' and when others do the opposite people are veryy quick to point fingers, snicker, whisper, talk, taunt. LIVE AND LET LIVE!
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Just because someone says that doesn't prevent any of us from judging them. People say a lot of silly things, this is just one of those things.
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Sahar, this is something I had been thinking about recently and it took a few surahs and hadiths for me to fully understand what one's conduct should be when it comes to judging others. Sorry for the religious essay that follows but, like I said, I only recently came to an understanding about this in the light of Quran and Hadith so I just want to write it down for myself.
First and foremost, Allah ne dimagh diya hai tau everyone capable of thinking is bound to have opinions, so you can't expect anyone not to make judgements when you, for example, don't eat pork but love your booze! People are bound to make judgements based on one's own moral code or based on the scripture that clearly differentiates between right and wrong. But how you go about voicing that opinion, especially about another person, is what needs consideration.
Bottom line is, it is wrong to falsely accuse someone without full knowledge:
"O you who believe! If a wicked person comes to you with any news, ascertain the truth, lest you harm people unwittingly, and afterwards become full of repentance for what you have done." [49:6]
"O you who believe! Shun much suspicion; for lo! some suspicion is a sin." [49:12]
So basically, don't base your judgements on hearsay and suspicion. If a person's faults are clearly established, again you have to be fair as to how you speak out against it. Gossiping/backbiting is not only against Islam but it's also not going to achieve anything. Is defaming the person going to make you a better person? Isn't your bitter attitude going to drive him/her away? Islam demands fairness and impartiality when it comes to judging others.
"And when you speak, then be just, though it be (against) a relative." [6:152]
"Indeed, Allah commands you to render trusts to whom they are due and when you judge between people, to judge with justice." [4:58]
Though Allah swt has given us the permission to judge, most people, including me, forget about the fairness bit and overlook one very important hadith: "Speak good or remain silent"
What has changed in my way of thinking now is that the hadith which orders you to "Stop evil with your hands (by taking action against it), or with your tongue (by condemning it), or at least in your heart (by feeling bad about it)", does not apply to another person's personal defects but to the fitnah in the society.
For example, if I know of a 5 waqt ka namazi who's also an alcoholic, it's not for me to point fingers at him, in fact I should conceal his faults and focus on the good. "If a person conceals the weakness of another in this world, Allah will conceal their weakness in the hereafter. Whosoever pursues the imperfections of his brother shall have his own imperfections pursued by Allah". But if the same person decides to open up a pub in a muslim community, that's when Muslims have the permission and the duty to condemn it and again there's a proper way of going about that.
Baki apni personal space mein jis ko jo karna hai karo, no one is perfect. I'll never approve of what's wrong to me (even if my own family is involved) but that's not of anyone else's concern because I will, or at least I'll try to, guard my tongue as much as I can ... and just pray that Allah swt forgives my many past, present and future wrongdoings.
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sometimes it's just as simple as a phrase used to stop yourself from feeling guilty, nothing to be taken seriously. i know i do it all the time.
"i just ate half a cake AFTER jogging. dont judge me okay"
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sometimes it's just as simple as a phrase used to stop yourself from feeling guilty, nothing to be taken seriously. i know i do it all the time.
"i just ate half a cake AFTER jogging. dont judge me okay"
See how much I loves you, I 'liked' what you typed even though you did not use capital letters. Don't ever complain again!
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Always get confused between sahar01 and sara536. Mix them up all the time. (Please don't judge me)
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^ im flattered. :D