Don't find spouse attractive anymore?

[diwana]

@candy_apple

Hi there,

I am newly married…about 9 months now. I dated my husband for 4 years before we got married. When we first met, we were both crazy about each other and I found him VERY attractive. He is a very good looking guy and when I met him his weight was normal. As the years went by he gained quite a bit of weight. **He is not fat, but definetly stalky or pudgy.
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I’ve also gained a little bit of weight, but most people would still consider me slim (I just need to tone a bit). My husband and I both recognize that we both have gained weight (him WAY more than me) and need to work on it, however, he never makes an effort.

The little bit of weight I have gained doesn’t seem to bother him at all. He still considers me physically attractive.

I feel bad saying this, but I honestly am not physically attracted to him anymore. This may sound superficial because its not all about looks, but I can’t help the fact that I am only attracted to good looking guys with a decent physique.

Has anyone gone through this? How do you deal with it?

Very nicely and honestly put.

Let me ask.

How much did he really gain compared to before marriage?

How much did you gain?

Can he lose weight?

**If he loses weight, will you get attracted to him again?
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There are so many women who gain phenomenal amount of weight after marriage and still men love them.

**I am not sure if this is all about weight. **

Being overweight brings other issues like sweating, skin fold problems and even many obese or overweight people could be very sexually attractive if they keep these issues in mind… the hygiene.