Someone was telling me about this wedding they recently attended in the US where the bride/groom had requested no gifts for the couple but “please bring a donation for victims of Pakistan floods.” How thoughtful I must say, but most of us wouldn’t probably do that, or would we?
The bride and groom and their families were beautifully dressed by the decor was humble and the food was just enough. Nothing lavish.
So what are your thoughts on this?
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hats off to them!
I will def. do that. I am not a bridezilla, I want a simple and small wedding. inshahAllah!
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lovely!
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wow such a wonderful idea!
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Wow, that was so thoughtful of them. MashaAllah.
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its an amazing idea!
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I would gladly give to a charity if that's what the bride and groom requested. If I requested charity donations rather than gifts I maybe tempted to get a charity catalogue (the ones where you can 'buy' a goat which is then given to a poor farmer) and highlight the gifts I would like the guests to purchase. Or I'd leave envelopes on all the tables, with the charity details on and ask politely for people to leave whatever they can comfortably in the envelop. I'd have to send thank you cards after-so I would ask people to put their names on the envelopes which I don't think is very desi is it?
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Good thought but I think it kinda burdens a guest, no? What if they don't want to donate to that particular charity or they can afford to give only a small amount that would look embarrassing?
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^amount would be like in an envelope...
and the burden thing ( i don't know about US) but in desi land.......there are receivables/payables accounts...
on how much you have given already at some previous wedding....
how much they gave to you before...
and how much you should pay now....
and how much at the next wedding of the family....and so on and so forth...
thats why people do the "cash" thing .....
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One of my best friends did that on her wedding...she asked for the guests to donate to the local masjid instead of any sort of gifts.
I thought it was very touching.
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very good thought
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I love the idea mashallah
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So this means, since I got nothing on my wedding, I don’t have to give anything to anyone else? SWEET! 
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one of my bffs did the same thing on her valima. it was a great touch to a perfect night, mashallah.
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good idea 
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such a great thinking
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it's a great idea