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July 26, 2013, 1:31pm
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Re: Domination
Yeah this is IT guy! Says we can talk about things and he would never do anything before talking to me but that he gets final say. So then I pressed on for examples and he said well I don’t have any right now. I am in shock. He said that there has to be a leader in each pack and he is the leader in his family. I said ok but I have brain smarts and education and wordly experience so I dont see why we wouldn’t come to reasonable agreements. He says that when there is a difference of opinion, his opinion will be the one we follow. WTH? So some examples - if there is a valid reason for me to take a job at one place vs another but I just WANT to work at the place he isn’t in favor of then I’d have to work in the place he wants me to work. He tells me what to cook each night. If its a financial decision or the kids decision then he has ultimate say.
I said so far I have not gotten the sense that you’re a 75-25 kind of guy. You haven’t told me what to do with my life and when he visited me, he said wherever you wanna go we’ll go. He says now that obviously he will not be bossy when he is on vacation and a guest.
He said this as if it’s natural.
When we have talked about our friends marriages, and compared what we liked and didn’t like - I was impressed that he thought it odd that his friends wives didn’t work even if they were trained docs. He agrees that is a waste to not work.
PCG, I know a real life example where the husband is the decision maker. Wife works full time, looks after everything from kids, bills to groceries. He stays home because he is a heart patient. She has to beg him even to give her $10. I am not exaggerating. She told me this herself. That somedays he gives her $10 for a week and sometimes not even that. So take what you will from this example.
From what I have seen, men with this mentality make their wives’ life hell.