Dominant versus subordinate partner

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Re: Dominant versus subordinate partner

@Decent_6Chora

We can discuss all night if we want to that it SHOULD be 50/50 but ground reality is that Relationships are more steady if one is more dominant than other. Submissive person can be submissive by nature or by choice.

Forget relationship, even organizations, groups etc works that way. There always has to be one person with dominance (i.e boss)

Absolutely agree, any time there is more than one person there will be one leader/dominant member. I am not married as of yet but would hope that my relationship with my husband would be one where we both have a say in important matters. This still doesn’t mean it will be 50/50 because I don’t believe that’s possible. I suppose, I hope it would be plus or minus 5.

@M_was_here

I think both partners can be involved and make a relationship work 50/50. There is nothing more assuring than a husband taking initiative and taking care of things and not being a doormat. In my case, he wants me to just stay home and be pretty while he works and comes home. lol.:halo: Except I dont want that for myself so he is very understanding both ways. We plan on sharing responsibilities but him to take care of finances and all that stuff but we both make decisions together. I guess I’m the more dominant one and we both know that, BUT he is in no way a doormat or naive. He just prefers me having the upper-hand. Of course he steps in when he doesn’t like something or prefers it another way.

Either way, both partners are happy with everything.

Ain’t that bit of contradiction You say it should/can be 50/50 but you have the upper-hand? Or are you saying its possible but in your relationship you are more dominant?