Actually it's comments/attitudes that these women are pathetic and asking for it which is what keeps them back.
Did you know that a lot of these men are really highly educated, hold successful jobs and are really high up in the career ladder? Nobody in the world would think they are cruel towards their spouse. Nobody would think that cause they have two faces - they are so nice, helpful, loving to outsiders but what happens behind closed doors is a totally different story.
I've recently come out of an abusive relationship so please try not to dismiss what I'm saying. Im fully aware of how much courage and guts it takes to stand up to someone you are scared of. It makes you physically sick. Just the thought of standing up to this person can make you sick with fear and anxiety, when in reality, these men are cowards and you have nothing to fear from them. But they have so far successfully eradicated your sense of self-worth which is why a person becomes so scared. You feel like you would rather be dead than try and stand up to someone who has no issues at all inflicting all sorts of emotional/mental abuse on you.
it's a very ugly situation to be in. it really is one of the most terrifying things to do - stand up to an abuser, but once you do it, you feel finally feel free of these psychos.
Reality is, that unless you have stood in these shoes, you won't get it. Nobody gets it. Nobody will understand it, but there are support groups out there that can help you get through it.
And it isn't just Pakistani men. There are SO MANY wonderful Pakistani men out there. Thank God I've had positive examples in my life outside this one individual, so he hasn't succesfully turned me against the male gender.
I agree completely. People are generally so quick to judge..like why wont she leave if he is so bad, and I agree 100% that these men are what I call charmers for the rest of the world.