our deen iman also imposes duties and obligations on wives so if they make it a habit to ignore them the husband can very easily loose his mind.a desi guy can also become abusive if the wife is wasting his hard earned cash. so a wife's behaviour and atitude contributes handsomly in guys becoming abusive. tali aik hath sai nai baja karti.
And sometimes women can also lose their mind when their husband make make them live with controlling and interfering in-laws (joint family system). Is it justfied in that case for the wife to become abusive?