Re: Doing the deed
I’d recommend reading stuff on the reddit sub DeadBedrooms.
I’m not married so can’t really say much about the topic. However, I’ll try to give my two cents anyway.
Most of us humans are sexual beings. And we want to be wanted sexually. Love and caring without sex is just friendship, not a romantic relationship.
What would I do if I were stuck in a situation like this? Talk it out. Try to fix the situation, find out what I’m doing wrong, communicate my dissatisfaction. At the end of all the talking, we’ll know if the relationship is salvageable or not.
Possible Outcome 1: We talk it out and we fix things. It won’t be a short talk. Things probably didn’t go wry in a day or two so they won’t get fixed in a day or two. However, it is important that both you and your partner realized that this is a problem. You can’t really fix a problem without acknowledging its existence.
Possible Outcome 2: We talk it out and we figure out she doesn’t want me anymore or just isn’t interested in sex. At this point we’ve have encountered an insurmountable incompatibility. We realize separating and opening ourselves to other possibilities is the best possible option. Things can get complicated if kids are involved.