Does this happen to u too??

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Every time i feel i have something to do though i am the most farigh person(i mean housewife and yet no kids)..i have done masters and i did job before marriage…i can’t enjoy my present moments coz all the time i have some unknown burden on my mind that i need to do something to make our life better..i need to do something to make my career..i need to get out of this place (i live in saudi arabia) for i need to be independent..i have many dreams,many wishes that i want to get fulfilled…how to get contented? how can i start enjoying my present and end this frustration? but i really need to do something about my career,about my life…though i dunno what!i just need contentment..how to get it?am i being abnormal??:frowning:

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happens with me all the time....I pray to Allah after every namaz for contentment in my life,He has given me more than i deserve but still i am unhappy most of the time :(

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Simple. Live in the now. Its an easy concept to grasp difficult to implement. What is that old saying "If you waste your life planning for the future, you will never enjoy the present" something like that.

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yeah same here pakista...i am 100 and 1000 times better than other Allah ka shuker but fears of future and bad experiences of other married ladies around me make me soooo frustrated..:(

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CM but then how can i make my future better?

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By having faith in Allah. What will happen will happen. What you need to do is make yourself happy in the present. And the present just doesn't mean today. It can be a week so you organize your self or even two weeks. But don't worry what will happen in a year or a few years.

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you are not being abnormal but the reality is if you stay in saudi long enough all these dreams and ambitions will die off eventually

sad but true

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Become a GS addict and you will be wishing that there were 48 hours in a day. :snooty:
Your choices for career are very limited in KSA. If you tell us more as to what you used to do previously and what are your goals then GS members can help you better.

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Please excuse my ignorance.....I admit I don't know much about women's daily lives in Saudi Arabia.

Are women not allowed to work at all? I thought there are certain jobs open to women?

What about volunterring? Are there organizations/hospitals/charities there where you could volunteer? I know housewives (here in the U.S. and 2 cousins "back home") who volunteer several times a week just to get out of the house and interact with other adults (outside their family of course). It gives them a "break" from being at home in addition to giving them a sense of fulfillment since they're doing something to help others.

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ofcourse they are allowed to work

maids, nannys for saudi kids, nurses, doctors, flight attendants, thats about it

but no driving, no volunteering, no cafe place etc.

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u r not alone in this one, u will find so many with same issues. i was one of them but not any more , what helped me will tell u later.
but there r so many options , find a hobby , if u have any intrest in cooking try new recipes , sewing , embriodery, craft etc. don like these u got internet learn some new skill whatever, take some ecourse , dont know what yur field is but there r many jobs that can be done from home. and i am sure u got to get out on weekends for a change.

for me i started learning Quran with translation and tafseer online. i just finished first para. i am using Dr. Farhat Hashmi's website for lectures. this is one part other thing is she has lectures on a book " dawa-e-shafi" it is by Imam Ibn Qayyim Al Jawziyyah, this is basically for " Tarbyah-o-Tazkiyah" . this book changes whole prespective of life, i would really encourage everyone to listen to these lectures( u can read the book if u want but it is in arabic and its urdu translation is also very difficult to understand by ourselves). i have not finished it yet , 1/3 is left. but inshallah once i will finish it , i am going to start again and do the little activities too that instructor asks. so far i am only listening and am addicted to it. All the best

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omg not dr farhat hashmi :(

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do volunteer work in your community.

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I knew about the no-driving rules....but WOW at the rest. No office type jobs for women at all? And absolutely 0 volunterring opportunities at hospitals or other charity organizations? I'm simply speechless. I knew things were restricted but I didn't realize to what extent....

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why not?

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It is only natural to feel confined especially when one's faced with a completely different environment and a whole new life plan.Try to find happiness in little things. Easier said than done but worth the try. :) Prayers and wishes.