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I call my kids aap, my juniors & subordinates aap, my younger brothers and cousins aap. I think its good manners to say aap.
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^ true...magar kuchh log aap to kahte haiN magar saath meN jaao/khaao/piyo kahte haiN, jaise:
aap khaao
aap jaao
aap piyo
dar asl, ise yuN honaa chaahiye:
aap khaaiye
aap jaaiye
aap pijiye
i dunno how this bad grammar crept in to our speech.
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I very rarely ever use “tum”…regardless if it’s family, friends or my kids…it’s always “aap”. My husband and I are 3 yrs apart in age, had a “love marriage” and I do not call him by his name. I don’t call him anything really, it’s always “Suniyay…or Sunai’n”. (and yes, I am born and raised in the US). I am the only one in my family like this lol…all my khalas, mamis, cousins etc call their husbands by name, but for some reason, I just never did/could. It’s not something he asked/expected/imposed either. When I refer to him in conversation with someone else, I use his name of course, but never, ever when I’m speaking to him directly or calling out to him 
And he uses “aap” with me as well.
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Yeah thats Lahori style, something I disliked while studying there, but gradually got into habit of it as well have shrugged it off now.
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Yeah thats Lahori style, something I disliked while studying there, but gradually got into habit of it as well have shrugged it off now.
good. :) vaise, "N" [nasal N] lagaane se bhii jumla respectful ban jaataa hai, jaise:
aap khaayeN
aap jaayeN
aap piyeN
:)
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So rare these days! 
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i've noticed that most husbands refer to their wives as "TUM" while their wives address them as "AAP".
my ex-GF used to call me AAP and i used to call her TUM. once i asked her to call me TUM as well...she said: "laRkiyoN ko AAP aur laRkoN ko TUM kahnaa ziyaada achchhaa lagtaa hai" :)
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Reminds me of something when I was young. In Punjabi adding ‘yu’ is sign of respect like “Nasal N”. I was talking to my dad and said, “passport dyo” which in urdu would be “passport deiN”.
One of my urdu speaking teahcers was present there i thought i said, “passport do”, he gave me a long lecture that I should speak respectfully to my dad. 
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I know lol..I get teased a lot in the family, but it also feels sweet…I’m an old soul :khatti:
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i've noticed that most husbands refer to their wives as "TUM" while their wives address them as "AAP".
my ex-GF used to call me AAP and i used to call her TUM. once i asked her to call me TUM as well...she said: "laRkiyoN ko AAP aur laRkoN ko TUM kahnaa ziyaada achchhaa lagtaa hai" :)
Hai Allah, aap ki GF bhi thi
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i've noticed that most husbands refer to their wives as "TUM" while their wives address them as "AAP".
my ex-GF used to call me AAP and i used to call her TUM. once i asked her to call me TUM as well...she said: "laRkiyoN ko AAP aur laRkoN ko TUM kahnaa ziyaada achchhaa lagtaa hai" :)
Thats interesting. Was it in Canada or India?
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Hai Allah, aap ki GF bhi thi
lol...kiuN bhai? aisii kia Ghalatii kar Daali maiN ne? :)
Thats interesting. Was it in Canada or India?
she was in Pakistan. :)
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aap ko apney haathooN sey paan khilati ho gi
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^:rotfl:
Ewww… 
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paan khilaane se pahle hii mujhe “CHOONA” lagaa gai. 
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