I have a friend who is a doctor. Her fiancee is also a doctor. They met while in medical school. They are a young couple and my girlfriend has been telling me about all the arrangements she is making for the wedding. One day I was talking to her fiancee, whom I have not had much conversation with and he said something which I didnt know how to react to. He suggested that I come to his place when nobody was home. Said he wanted to tutor me on something. I have no idea where that came from or what he meant by it. By that time my girlfriend came around. She asked what was going on and he sort of made the “shush” expression and smiled, but when his fiancee turned to look at him, he became serious. I didnt know what to think. Was this an inside joke, were they both in on this, does my friend not have a clue as to what her fiancee does. I dont know what to make of it and whether I should spoil things by telling my girlfriend what occured. The thought crossed my mind that maybe she knows what her fiancee is like, and she just ignores it. Reason being that I have heard other girls make comments about her fiancee, and my friend seems to ignore them, or doesnt care. People have said that since his father is an ambassador, he feels he can behave as he pleases. I never knew what they meant by this, but maybe this is what they meant. I hate to speculate, its not good to be suspicious, but as what happened has occured, I’d like suggestions on how to handle this.
Maybe he noticed that you like him and he is trying to roll the dice. It's perfectly OK to like the fiance of your best friend.
If I were you, I would go right ahead and pay him a visit. If he makes a move, record it on a hidden tape recorder (easily available at local Radio Shacks). Give it your friend as a Bridal Shower present and microwave some popcorn, grab a pop and sit back and relax.
look if u r a gd friend then u shoudl tell her y... because its gona be more painful after marrige ( if the guy is 'fishy') then just breaking it up now get me?
u're friend is out to bag a doctor husband .. a perfect match.. the reason she doesn't listen to her gf's is cuz she's focused on her objective.. go right ahead and tell what transpired without addition or your own comments/feelings.
It would take the burden u're carrying and since she doesn't take it seriously anyway no harm would be done.
yes, You should tell her exactly the thing happened ( imean not less not more) then it's up to your friend maybe she knows him A LOT that other girls don't.
good luck
Thanks to those that responded here and in mail. I told her what happened in the best way I knew how. Apparently she doesnt mind that her fiancee is flirtatious, as long as she never catches him doing the real thing. To each his own. Thanks for the replies.
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proves my theory.. that's one straight thinking female.. i'm sure she'd be the Dr's Mrs. soon.
and i'd be very surprised if she'd let this catch slip away even if she catches him in the act..
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It should no longer surprise me that some individuals feel this way, but it does everytime. I have seen it with other people, not with friends. I would not have reacted that way, but then everyone has their own ideas.
Kareem, he is attractive to her, as far as I know.
being flirtatious and making inappropriate passes are two different things......you're girlfriend needs to grow up, obviously the prestige of being married to her doctor boyfriend/ambassador's son is worth the compromise she is making considering is morality!!!
He sounds like a LOSER!!..........and one LOSER deserves another LOSER!!........
Munni, stay away from him. He wants to play doctor with you. No need to bring it up with your friend, she either knows or will find out soon. Your main concern should be to stay away from him. Tell me to piss off and that he is son of a bitch. Alos suggest to him that he should play doctor with his mama and his grand-mama. Better still, tell him that you are going to tell everyone about his advances. People like him need to be exposed.
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Munni, stay away from him. People like him need to be exposed.
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I do plan on staying away from him. Is it right to go around telling everyone what someone said to me? Would that lead to gossip? There is already gossip about him, which his fiancee is aware of. I think that its good to tell the people involved in the situation, but others I am not too sure of. A dilemma.