Does she have to obey her husband’s mother?

[Mr_Fraudia]

Re: Does she have to obey her husband’s mother?

@amana

Now that many pakistani muslims are educated about this - what are the reasons for hanging on to the insistence that a wife live with her in-laws. I mean, we can’t very well say it’s Islamic if we know it’s not - so basically now what’s the excuse men give.

Note - I think that we are absolutely responsible for taking in our aged parents who are not in good health and taking care of them. But there is a big difference between living in a joint family situation, and your parents moving in when they are elderly and actually NEED care, not when they are 45 and have decided that they are ancient.

in many cases couples may complain about having to live with their parents, but the choice is always theirs, they can be in their own place close-by. They may have family pressure but succumbing to it shows their lack of backbone. Now maybe its financial i.e. they cant afford to live on their own, in which case they are takign advantage of accomodations and all at the parents place, or in some cases they need to support the whole household and moving out would mean they could contribute less to the household as their own expenses would increase.

so there are many scenarios, now if it is a matter of obligations, or financials whether it is in self interest or due to commitments to the family, people can handle it.