Re: does playing hard to get works??
do you even have a fiance? i have my doubts now. -___-
why are you being so mean?
Re: does playing hard to get works??
You don't have to agree with me, just an advice:
I have no idea what background you two have so it may not apply whatever I say.
Do not go too far especially if he is from east.
You are engaged, not married.
You do not have to do what married couples do at this stage.
You have a risk of losing your 'respect' and 'honor' in future if you go too far in early stage.
Playing hard to get like I said is tricky but going too far is even more harmful in early stage.
Don't worry about him not being virgin unless you take a man's virginity seriously enough to break the engagement. In that case go ahead and break it now.
Otherwise It will only cause your mind polluted with no good end result.
the thing is its an arranged marriage...i dont want to let him take me for grranted because if i push my true feelings inside the relationship he can easily hurt me and i will be trapped. yes i admit i do have a commitment problem,never completely falling in love so i can protect myself from being hurt,but if i alllow myself i can love him to an intensity that he wont even imagine,i would probably start getting upset over things like if he was busy or didnt reply,normal everyday things,but he's so nice i cant allow myself to completely be in love..
no im not physical with him.we meet only when parents do,they,havent got a problem with us holding hands so we occasionally hold hands.i dont want to play games but i want to just be safe in a circle,so if he loses interest im not hurt.he has already stopped telling me he misses me,four days ago he was telling me this twenty times a day,and this is hurting me... i just dont want to be taken for granted.thats all. no playing hard to get.
Re: does playing hard to get works??
i find it so hard to believe when he says he loves me.... he's good but doesnt follow these words with any actions...except for insisting i be there when he picks his engagement ring...ive never never been in love, i dont know how boy minds work,i wish i knew how he thinks.
does playing hard to get works??
Then why are you marrying him?! If you have doubts about somebody who doesn't treat you how you want to be treated so early on in a relationship? It makes no sense to me that here you are saying you don't trust him enough with your heart and at the same time you want to protect yourself incase he loses interest which he apparently has been showing signs of already? If he's losing interest already then why are you together?!
Or it could be that you are extremely clingy and need constant attention. If you see him all the time and are around each other enough then why do you consistently need to hear he misses you 20 times a day?! Real life doesn't work that way. Your threads are so confusing. Either he treats you like you should be or is a completely jerk and doesn't know how to treat his gf or future wife. But for a guy who isn't a virgin, sounds like he might have some experience in relationships and you are too insecure. Your insecurity could be driving him away. If he's lost so much interest already and yet you are still asking about what games to play to get his attention sounds like your too immature to handle a serious relationship. How can you have a wall up from someone you've not only agreed to marry but are able to see and hangout with and spend enough time with without the typical pressure? You have all the time to know and understand him so why are you still so insecure about what you should or shouldn't be doing?! Isn't that exhausting? Why can't you just be yourself? If he likes it great, if not and is taking you for granted during your engagement then you have bigger problems because he's already shown you how he handles relationships. I doubt a wedding will fix things. I'm not sure which one it is but I have a feeling you have some crazy expectations to hear sappy lines every hour of the day. That's not realistic. Obviously I don't know you and if that's not it then again, why are you marrying him?
Re: does playing hard to get works??
I've noticed this too. Usually, the guy figures out that the girl is playing "hard to get" (because men aren't as dumb as women's magazine's make them out to be) and is put off by the immaturity of it. Playing hard to get is childish and rather pointless as most guys can see right through it. If you are genuinely interested in someone, what is the point of pretending that you aren't interested?
Exactly...playing hard to get in Op's scenario...i would advise..to keep off the hook eh!.But generally speaking, playing hard to get.. ek had tak acha lagta hai...but after that it eventually loses it charm. Same girls who are playing this game..turn out to be snob..in the end. Alas we should never confuse elegance with snobbery.
does playing hard to get works??
I just don't understand how someone can play hard to get with your fiancé. They've already got you!