Re: does one make a list of qualities in a spouse
personally i hated the idea of making that list, even metaphoricaly (sp?) but .. ainnnhhhh shakes shoulders everyone does that in one way or the other, expectations dont have to be in written form…
my list wasnt that long :
- caring/loving (believe it or not, THIS has always been on top of my list)
- focused (doesnt get distracted from incidents of life)
- determined (life has its ups and downs, if she was working AND she balanced her life around me AND her family, that tells that if a person can do all this, can raise a VERY good family)
yes i did find them in her. WHAT made me make this kinda list? 
i dunno i guess at one point in life, u get upset from all the loneliness around u, and u end up thinking weird thoughts, random thoughts, just-to-keep-u-busy thoughts, and somewhere down THAT phase, i guess i made that list..