Does making tea for your susraal make you a ghar damaad?

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Re: Does making tea for your susraal make you a ghar damaad?

@Insaaniyat

Well my MIL and her brother came over yesterday and my wife was too busy talking to her Mum and mamoo so I thought I’d make a cup of tea for them.
My phopo was here too and when she saw me in the kitchen making tea for my susraal she was a wee bit annoyed seeing her bateeja doing what she called auraton ka kaam and that too for my susraal.

When my saas and her bhai left my phopo made a fuss about it to my mum that she hadn’t taught her son to act like a man. She called me a jhoru ka ghulam and what not. But what surprised me the most was when she said I had become my susraal’s tabeydar (“abhi sei hogaya unka chamcha”) and I was being a ghar damaad? Not that I see anything wrong with the idea of a ghar damaad (not that I want to be one, lol) but I don’t see how making a small cup of tea for your saas makes you a ghar damaad. Nor am I a “Jhoru ka ghulam”. My mama just told me and my wife to never mind. “Abida baaji ko to aadat hai batey bananay ka”.

Note: I have been born and brought up in the West, but I understand the culture of Pakistan since I have been raised in a very traditional family. Have been recently married.

It doesn’t look good and one should not make it a habit.