As a young single girl with my parents looking for me to get married, sometimes the thought of being with someone for the rest of my life, that very same person day in day out really scares me…sometimes i think…dont people get bored?
is it possible to ‘fall out of love?’ how does love change over time, does it stronger, does it stay the same but change from lust to companionship? what keeps the love alive?
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As a young single girl with my parents looking for me to get married, sometimes the thought of being with someone for the rest of my life, that very same person day in day out really scares me......sometimes i think....dont people get bored?
is it possible to 'fall out of love?' how does love change over time, does it stronger, does it stay the same but change from lust to companionship? what keeps the love alive?
I think you have good and bad days but u cant say love keeps reducing over time.
In some cases it might be true but more u live together and more you fight and then make out stronger ur relationship gets.
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it does. it may fade or decrease or increase or simply change into long lasting companionship but never remains the same.
what keeps the love alive?
a lot of sensibility and understanding.
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pfffttt I’m going to be 99 years old and still running around trees, singing kaho na pyar hai with mere woh 
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what keeps the love alive?
babies. lots of them.
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babies. lots of them.
The actual physical babies or the process of making babies?
p.s. I actually had hareem and psyah in mind when writing this thread after reading your q&a thingy, because you guys seem to be really loved up after kids and differing opinions and difficulties and dont seem bored at all which is my biggest fear when it comes to marriage.
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agree with mirage but to add it also probably takes some flexibility, respect, a commitment to strengthening the bond, desire to change/improve for the sake of the relationship by both not just one or is that too much of an idealistic view and not possible in "love"
btw, why is it, like inspiron asked, that you see people that are so totally in love falling out of love?
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aww honey… you have all rights to imagine so; you are not married as yet 
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babies. lots of them.
Cant figure where your coming from, your point of view might be true too but if you cant manage children and husband together properly it may rather create a breach among the couple itself, which is a very horrible thing for the marriage to survive.
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there
you are babe :k:
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im having second thoughts about your posts now.
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As a young single girl with my parents looking for me to get married, sometimes the thought of being with someone for the rest of my life, that very same person day in day out really scares me......sometimes i think....dont people get bored?
Aww. I use to wonder the same, not anymore though and i dont really know why maybe i have matured?!
As for, whether love changes with time? Well ofourse yes. Everything does with time and age. However hopefuly it wl change for better, wl be deepened but some are unfortunate to fall out of love or not feel the same about the person they once loved due to various circumstances. As for getting bored? I guess life doesnt give you that much time to get married esp for a married couple where there are too many things thrown at them to feel bored. What actually happens is when all these things are being thrown at you, your needs from your partner also changes. And when they fail to fulfil them, trouble enters the horizon. That's why understanding is very important in these relationships because you need to know what your partner is going thru and what he/she would expect from you to deal with it.
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Yes, love can change over time especially if the person hurt you alot and betrayed you...
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The actual physical babies or the process of making babies?
p.s. I actually had hareem and psyah in mind when writing this thread after reading your q&a thingy, because you guys seem to be really loved up after kids and differing opinions and difficulties and dont seem bored at all which is my biggest fear when it comes to marriage.
i don't know...it's just the first thing that came to my mind.
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^ children no doubt are a binding force but i dont know i have this weird feeling that the romance takes the back seat then.
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true love is like vintage wine .. it gets better with age .. trust me ;)
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true love is like vintage wine .. it gets better with age .. trust me ;)
what's it like, the way your man treats you or cares for you, it got better? this true love that gets better with age, that's the dream kind of love for any couple i'm sure. Mashallah, lucky you :-)
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As a young single girl with my parents looking for me to get married, sometimes the thought of being with someone for the rest of my life, that very same person day in day out really scares me......sometimes i think....dont people get bored?
is it possible to 'fall out of love?' how does love change over time, does it stronger, does it stay the same but change from lust to companionship? what keeps the love alive?
Omg im right there with you. That is the thing that worries me too. Is it possible to find someone with whom you can spend your entire life with, especially in today's world? I am so scared after hearing all these divorce and nightmare marriage stories. I think the best option is to pray to Allah tala that he blesses you with a long and a happy marriage!!
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^its only when passing years lend maturity and a better understanding of each other to the couple. or maybe they get bored of fighting and suff and therefore pretend as if their love is getting stronger 
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its only when passing years lend maturity and a better understanding of each other to the couple.
true .. second part is funny