Does having 2 different bank accounts for husband and wife affects the relationship?

[diwana]

@cherrybell37

what about them making all her efforts zero? She doesnt want to mention it. She cant stop mentioning it only when she is blamed tht she might have negativity in her mind about his family. She gets hurt too. When she knows and her husband also realizes in normal circumstances that she cares about his family. She makes all her efforts to have a great relationship with his mother and sisters. What about her planning to have enough financial means so they both can go to pakistan for his brothers upcoming wedding and spend as much as needed. She is planning to work extra hours… so they can have enough money and everyone can stay happy.

She realizes the importance of family very much. She takes his mother as her own mother. Her parents passed away when she was young. She lived with her uncle’s family. He made her life hell. She has suffered a lot before married life.

Her father and husbands father were childhood friends. She loves him a lot. and makes every effort to make him happy. He some times admits that he gets hyper and angry and then later on apologizes. He knows that she loves him and she knows tht he loves him a lot. All she want is him in her life while not sepretaing him from his family.

But she doesnt want to be taken for granted sometimes. Little issues involving family makes her emtionally insecure. what should she do?

What you are mentioning now is very commendable and she does deserve better treatment from him.

The essence of discussion is that in the heat of argument, if woman mentions these things the effect goes in wrong direction and man feels even worse.

He should admire her and she should make him admire him and not mention these good things in the event of argument to try to get even with him.

There are other ways and better situations where she could politely show her contributions.

Same goes with man though. He should not say things to his wife what good he does for her when argument happens.