diwana
February 21, 2010, 2:02am
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A friend was talking to me and I wondered as we spoke… tht Having two different bank accounts for husband and wife affects the relationship? She was talking about her experiences and I was only wondering…
How do couples do it. ofcourse as partners both plan to make mutual financial effort for their living. But when the guy has responsibility for his family… The girl’s general intention is nice tht yeh she wants to contribute with him for his responsibilities. But when they have arguments about little things and guy just says Oh you are always negative about my family( when she is not)… and then the girl is like oh what i was thinking… I was thinking to support you each and everyway for ur family and you give me such negative conclusions about me and ur family. Girl mentions her contributions for his family… She mentions how his sisters are house wives… how his mother is a house wife and how his little brother’s wife-to-be is going to be a house wife. Only she is going to go out and work so they can meet financial expenses. She also wants to help her husband with his responsibilities since his father passed away and he has been the main provider for the family.
And then guy worries about girl mentioning her efforts to help him supporting his family. He doesnt want the girl to mention her efforts… since he considers them ‘tanay’, or ‘Taunting’… He tells her tht I do not want ur conrtibutions and I will take only ur financial responsibility and will forget about my family… and the girl is like What the Hell… I do want him to fulfill his family responsibilities…
She comes up with an idea… of keeping seperate bank accounts. She can keep what she earns in her account and the guy can keep his earnings in his account… The girl would want to take her own responsibility and also want to spend on something tht is mutual between them… She still have good intentions about the guys family but she knows if she ll make any contributions for them.. and if even a little negative thing comes up… she wont be able to stop herself mentioning her conributions. Mentioning it will make the guy upset… So what to be done… since this issue always leads to bigger issues between them. What to do?
The guy can make all the financial efforts he wants for his family through his own earnings…
Does having the idea of keeping earnings seperate will create any problems? Does that prevent the feelings of staying closer?
First of all..the girls is not acting like a mature person here.
He is right in asking her not mentioning it but should say…Don’t spend any money on my family.
Overall the girls is not a nice person. or she does not know when to stop hurting others.
And separate account is an absurd idea. But same bank with different account number but mutual access is not so bad idea.