Do people become more faithful and religious after they lose people they love.
I personally experienced different (may be its a temporary phase) after death of my father. There is no day when I don’t ask my self ‘Has Aba gone forever and I’ll never get a chance to meet him’. This comes to my mind at any moment.. while driving, while working, going upstairs / downstairs and obviously while reading a book which I think Abba would have loved to read. No religious, spiritual explanation could relieve me from the question over 6 months.
it made me stronger in my faith after my dad's and sister's death. i've the firm faith that we'll be reunited in the life hereafter if i be a good practicing Muslim. it's an article of faith and that's the only way for me.
a lucky parent is the one who leaves behind swaleh aulaad in this dunyaa who sends them du'aas after his own good deeds come to an end after his death. praying for your deceased parents/siblings/close relatives along with their remembrance is the best and the only way to go about one's loss of loved ones.
Do people become more faithful and religious after they lose people they love.
I personally experienced different (may be its a temporary phase) after death of my father. There is no day when I don't ask my self 'Has Aba gone forever and I'll never get a chance to meet him'. This comes to my mind at any moment.. while driving, while working, going upstairs / downstairs and obviously while reading a book which I think Abba would have loved to read. No religious, spiritual explanation could relieve me from the question over 6 months.
I think so. It definitely had an impact on mine. I think about my dad everyday, I dream about him nearly every night. Instead of looking at faith logically and rejecting it, I began to want to feel it spiritually. My father was not a religious man but moments before he went in coma, he uttered the words, "Kalimah parho." That shook me. I never saw my dad pray or fast but he was really generous and a humanitarian. His death didn't convert me nor changed my beliefs, but I began to respect people of faith. Part of me just wanted to know that he was still alive somewhere so something in my beliefs had to change to accommodate that, but they didn't change. I had spiritual experiences many times even before his death but all I cared about was what I felt. After his death, I found myself caring and respecting others' beliefs and experiences.
it made me stronger in my faith after my dad's and sister's death. i've the firm faith that we'll be reunited in the life hereafter if i be a good practicing Muslim. it's an article of faith and that's the only way for me.
a lucky parent is the one who leaves behind swaleh aulaad in this dunyaa who sends them du'aas after his own good deeds come to an end after his death. praying for your deceased parents/siblings/close relatives along with their remembrance is the best and the only way to go about one's loss of loved ones.
Agreed with the bold part and I have been trying to this, but I'm not relieved.
I think so. It definitely had an impact on mine. I think about my dad everyday, I dream about him nearly every night. Instead of looking at faith logically and rejecting it, I began to want to feel it spiritually. My father was not a religious man but moments before he went in coma, he uttered the words, "Kalimah parho." That shook me. I never saw my dad pray or fast but he was really generous and a humanitarian. His death didn't convert me nor changed my beliefs, but I began to respect people of faith. Part of me just wanted to know that he was still alive somewhere so something in my beliefs had to change to accommodate that, but they didn't change. I had spiritual experiences many times even before his death but all I cared about was what I felt. After his death, I found myself caring and respecting others' beliefs and experiences.
My father was not all religious. At least he never imposed his religious views or forced us to pray. In his last years, he used to do lot of tasbeeh and darood, but did not see him praying (due to his medical condition). Never saw him fasting or going to mosque regularly (except Fridays). But All I know about him that he had a firm belief in God and was in love with Prophet. Sometimes, I used to think that I should have asked Abba 'what if all the religious theories are not true?'
For long time after he passed away, I would pray in routine like.
"ya allah ammi ko bakash dy ... abbu ko theek thak rekh"
Then It would hit me that, he is no more.
Alhamdolillah I am blessed with parents' presence in the world but I recently lost a niece, I didn't 'turn more religious' per se but couldn't get myself to listen to music, watch tv, entertainment/sports etc.
As in all disasters, if a crisis/disaster brings you closer to Allah swt then it means it was a "test" and if it pushes you away from Allah then it was punishment.
I don't think there is anything wrong to remembering your lost one, as much as you can/do, best would be to say maghfira prayers for him/her.
Do people become more faithful and religious after they lose people they love.
I personally experienced different (may be its a temporary phase) after death of my father. There is no day when I don't ask my self 'Has Aba gone forever and I'll never get a chance to meet him'. This comes to my mind at any moment.. while driving, while working, going upstairs / downstairs and obviously while reading a book which I think Abba would have loved to read. No religious, spiritual explanation could relieve me from the question over 6 months.
it varied in one direction and then another, and then i suppose I landed somewhere in between. dunno
Let me try to address the original question on the base of what I think.
Its just not only one incident of passing away of your loved one, but it can be any shock that can change your thinking dimensions. Sometimes some high hopes are crushed, your sure shot destination miss or any unexpected happening out of nowhere and you feel like you are hit by a truck.
Now the first condition that takes over a mind is denial. A complete denial that it hasnt happened. There is no way it can happen.
After some time you start questioning if it has really happened? Should you believe on that? So the state of mind changes from shock —to —> Grief.
Some more time passes and then once you start believing on that, two possibilities usually happen. Either you accept the grief and carry on with your life in sadness which heals by the time OR your grief gets converted into anger. But in both these cases you start involving “qismat”. Either by saying “qismat men yahi tha” or by blaming qismat, which in-turn becomes blaming your faith.
But trust me, none of this is unnatural. Its how human are programmed. I can bet that for a long time you had never even discussed this condition with anyone but now you are doing it. Its a positive sign that atleast you have acknowledged the facts. Next step will be overcoming this anger and then you get back to your faith cuz your foundation is very strong, laid by the same person whose grief you are in.
A lot of hugs for all of you who have come across any shock in their lives. May ALLAH bless you with a lot of patience and the decision-making ability to do the right thing.
Start thinking other way around...
May Allah unite us with our loved ones in jannah along with our beloved muhammad sallal laho alaihi wasallam Ameen
Al i feel is incomplete without abbu...my happiness..success all without him like incomplete...
May Allah bless our fathers and grant them highest place in jannah and may we become best sadqa e jaria for them Ameen
Agree with most of what you said, but its more of sense of helplessness than anger. Sense there is nothing I can do.
I do believe in these things and the concept ’ when you can’t do anything then leave leave that to Allah’. I have suggested others to same, but for the time-being these thoughts are not as relieving as that used to be.
Agree with most of what you said, but its more of sense of helplessness than anger. Sense there is nothing I can do.
I do believe in these things and the concept ' when you can't do anything then leave leave that to Allah'. I have suggested others to same, but for the time-being these thoughts are not as relieving as that used to be.
I am saying try to concentrate on your departure....like you will also leave the world like him..
May Allah bless you and may you have sakinah for the rest of your life Ameen
