I was reading a topic of conversation at another forum when I came by this post which I am going to quote here, it boggled my mind for few minutes and would like to know your opinion on this.
I barely have any interaction with females in my life except for my mom, not that I deliberately try to run away from them . I’m in my final year in college and the only time I ever had the opportunity to interact with females is when the semester finals are near and they need some help or I have to do some sort of group work with them. Now, that I am about to graduate from college and read this post, I look back at my campus life and think that maybe I should have experienced this and see what its all about or I have missed out on a lot of things.
I wonder that how I am ever going to find or choose a spouse for myself, I suck at socializing and personality. Even if I do get married on my parent’s choice, I might be a pathetic husband.
^He never said he has no opposite gender experience, I believe he said he doesn't have fast female friends. And neither do i (a guy friend). So before you give some one a death penalty, learn to comprehend the person's situation. :P
I disagree. No matter how many interactions , one has had...its the confidence and its your own values, beliefs taught at home to how to treat a woman and how to maintain a healthy relationship/marriage. No matter how horrible relationships one has had, what's the guarantee the next one he/she will be changed? Yes, you can LEARN from your past mistakes, but that doesn't guarantee you a happy next relationship. It's all in you, you can either make your first one a happy one or your 10th one :)
I have had many family marriages where the guys/girls never had previous relationship, and their first serious one lead to a happy marriage.
As far as I can tell I'm a pretty decent husband even after almost 9 years of marriage. At school/university I used to be a bit of a nerd, never had a GF and looking back I'm really glad about that. No regrets.
sup yo..check this out. Ya don't need to be so called experienced in relationships. Ya're studies and others were priorities at that time..so it is perfectly fine. As far as, having g/f and no g/f..doesn't matter. What matter is your confidence in yourself and women. So chill yo! tell mama to find ya some sugar queen for ya eh!. Meanwhile..ya take chill pill and smoke some sheesha. Aight..m out!
I wonder that how I am ever going to find or choose a spouse for myself, I suck at socializing and personality. Even if I do get married on my parent’s choice, I might be a pathetic husband.
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Ozair, what ever that guy said is not:nahi: even worth of reading, he is claiming to have past **RELATIONSHIPS . **From what i see the guy is a big time looser:shikari:, claiming to have so much means he failed that much, if he was this good he would have ended up with one and only one relation from start to end, rather than claiming to have so much experience by having more than one in his life. :nono:
In life from start to end there will be always something that you will face for the first time and being good in it depends on the way you manage it, like for the first time you will be graduated, for the first time you will get married man, and for the first time become a father. Its nonsense to have 10-12 time experience first to become perfect the time you really plan to become the real thing.
I say All those males and female having one relation in their whole life and having it:hooray: successfully are the real ones you should focus on.
And to keep a female happy is no big thing, all you have to do is be gentle, friendly, loving, caring, understanding, sincere rather than being experienced and i believe if your a good son than surely you will be a good husband
O and do me a favor Ozair go back to that thread and post on my behalf, American males since their childhood stay with females, they start dating when they are 12 year old, and they do almost everything, but still majority of them end up being failure in their relationship compared to those having one single relation in their life (for example muslim males) so what that really proves.
Lack of experience will definitely put you at a disadvantage specially in Pakistan where it is difficult to approach and interact with people of opposite gender and only experienced people find it easier to do. But since you are young you still have a chance. College is not the only place to learn to interact with opposite gender.
experience does not matter...its not effing rocket science where u need years of training learning about space and all the million stars n whatever else rocket scientists need to learn about....
the post u quoted...sounds like a dumbass who's full of himself...i'm not saying experience doesnt count...err sure u might know how to make women happy...but women also like guys who're genuine...i dont want a sleezy guy who knows how to make me happy. i'd rather have a genuine not so experienced guy and that'll make me happy...if the guy is just saying things to say them (and again it doesnt take long to figure out the person isnt genuine) then all of that means nothing..
as for how to interact with females..i'm sure ure wife would prefer u interact with the least number of females in ur life as possible...women r very posessive..they dont like sharing u...before or after :-l so all in all u dont have to be player with 30 gfs for a woman to fall for u.
that is good advice btw , and whether u’ve been with one girl or 100 every individual is unique so by being with a whole lot of girls u don’t know the ‘secret formula’ as the guy is claiming. That’s a half ass excuse for his multitudinous failed relationships.
How to Treat them? Simple.treat them well, that’s how u should treat any human being no?
