What is everyones opinion on culture, is it important to you? Is it important that you marry someone within your culture or are you happy for it to fade away? Are you happy to be more "western" and to totally forget your cultural traditions?
I've seen many pakistani/Indian people around me from Western countries yearning to be more "western" by giving up their culture. For me I find it hard to fathom. I was born in a western country yet my culture is important to me, even though I haven't been able to appreciate it as much as I want to. It stills means everything to me. It's in my blood. I wouldn't give that up for anything.
This thread isn't solely based on interracial relationships but as as a example you would see a Pakistani/Indian person marry a Kala or gora. Have a Asian wedding to show everyone how both cultures are integrated yet as the years pass, from what I have seen I'm sure the pakistani/Indian is giving up their culture for the sake of their other half by doing less and less traditional things. Also once a child is born, from what I have seen absolutely zero would embrace the "Asian culture" side. They will embrace the white or Kala side. And the person who is pakistani/Indian they're happy for that to happen? For their child to not really care about how one half of their parent grew up. You see goras and kalas have kids. And the kids say they're black. Embrace the black side etc cause there skin colour leans towards that.
I'm just curious what everyone elses opinion is. Pretty sure how social media is messing up peoples head these days I'm not gonna have many people agreeing with me. But alas this question on a Pakistani/Indian forum I'm intrigued to see answers to.
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Culture is important for me....especially the good bits about our culture. It saddens me when I see Desi parents that don't make an effort to teach their kids Urdu because I feel that language in and of itself contains so much of a culture. All you have left then is food....and the occasional kurta shalwar that's worn on special occasions.....and a pathetic pride in uttering the salam and a rudimentary Urdu sentence in a heavy American twang that sounds like nails on a chalkboard. I am more Desi than Western and most of the guys I've liked have been Desi...but I've had a few crushes in the past on a couple of non-Desis...(who were more conservative and Desi-like)....you can't control these things.
I agree with the Asian parents who don’t teach their kids Urdu anymore. Seems to be going around quite a bit. Like where’s the pride in our culture gone?
To me culture is very important. Still sticking around GS for this long is just a small proof. Those who completely want to give up their culture and portray as completely western are either confused or ashamed of their origins.
In the dating world a lot of times I'm told that you are typical desi. And I'm like hell ya. Not gona say no or try justifying myself for anything. Take it or leave it.
My culture is very important to me. It's my identity. Sense of belonging. And it's important to me that my children are/stay in touch with their roots, and carry it with pride.
I have seen naysayers use all kind of strawman arguments as why they don't want their children to speak their mother tongue and why they don't find culture important.
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My culture is very important to me. It’s my identity. Sense of belonging. And it’s important to me that my children are/stay in touch with their roots, and carry it with pride.
I have seen naysayers use all kind of strawman arguments as why they don’t want their children to speak their mother tongue and why they don’t find culture important.
More than the culture, I feel people are more afraid of admitting their origin, seen many people hiding they were born in Pakistan, or that their parents were. I am not really that big into culture (especially since my social circle is extremely diverse) but I will never forget or hide where I came from.
