Does age matter?

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Interesting thread that OMG.. about a 13 yr old getting pregnant.

My first instinctive feeling was “So?”, and “The mother is to blame, not the child”. After rationalizing a bit, I realized that as a mother, I wouldn’t mind very much if my 13 year old brought home a baby. But I’d prolly be furious if my 19 yr old did (but I’d still keep her tho).

Why?

I don’t think 13 yr olds understand anything much about religion, sex, taboo, etc etc. They’re just experimenting with whatever comes in their way, where it’s a Sega game or something else. They go to the doctors for flu shots and measles, so having sex is just like one of those incidents for them. I don’t think 13 year olds can feel lust, desire, or passion. They just.. live in a play world, where most things are fun to touch and look at etc..

The older you get, your feelings come into play. As you mature, and gain new ideas, gain a perspective on yourself, you realize a lot of different things about yourself and your surroundings, socieity, you question your existence, you question things and consciously search for answers. At 13, you don’t have that probingness surrounding you, you just want to do this and that and run around everywhere and eat and sleep. You don’t care who is rich or poor, black or white, you live more innocently. A baby coming out of your belly prolly hurts a lot more than the mumps, but it’s forgotten after about a month of ice cream and cartoons. At that age, you have the ability to re-shape your life. As you get older, you don’t, so the mistakes you make stay with you (if having a child can be called a mistake, which I highly doubt).

When you start questioning God, is the time when you are conscious of His existence.. that’s really when the punishment starts. When you’re 13, u r barely conscious of a pen sticking in your ear. I don’t think it’s right to castigate a mere babe for something that she/he is only learning about as part of child-play. I mean, that’s like totally different from a mature thinking sensing 24 year old frolicking in the woods.

What say you?

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Re: Does age matter?

At the tender age of thirteen I'd say the parents should have been more careful with the girl.

For any pubescent but not mentally mature child they are the responsibility of their parents.

Yes, I agree with you that a 19 year old should've considered the pros and cons before she let the guy have his share of fun and leave her to rot. But we have to keep in mind that we as human beings are curious throughout life.

i.e. guys will go to strip bars once in their life time to see what the hype is all about.

i.e. #2 girls will probe and do a few things to see why is this thing called sex so secretive.

Its in our nature to inquire, to indulge, to go astray from morals. Its easier being an animal than being a human. We've been gifted with a brain and thats what differentiates us from the animals, unfortunately folks have proven that there is a less of a difference with all these acts going on.

In this situation the parents are partially to blame, not entirely because we have to take into account the societal pressures, the peer pressure she possibly got from the guy that if she didn't do the deed then he would leave her.

Sometimes its just hard to put the blame on who is ultimately responsible for a young but not so young person. I'd say why even bother blaming, its happened, forget it, its the past now, grieve and sulk all you want but its not going to change. The child is here so is the girl, live with it, you have no choice.

Age plays a big factor but so does maturity of the mind. I've seen some 25 year old girls who's parents are the best role models yet we have them going around putting each guy down as soon as they rise to the occassion. Go figure.

Its how you think more than how old you are, society has just set a standard that by the age of 18 you should be responsible for your own acts yet I can name a million examples who aren't.

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*i.e. guys will go to strip bars once in their life time to see what the hype is all about.

i.e. #2 girls will probe and do a few things to see why is this thing called sex so secretive. *

Dear Coco, has it ever occur to you that may be, just may be guys go to strip clubs to see naked women dancing and get lap dances to get off and so that they can later jack off? And usually they don't do it once in a life time?

Has it also ever occur to you that may be, just may be girls rub it and like it to be rubbed 'cause it gives them orgasm and they do it to seek pleasure not to reveal some friggin' divine secrets?

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Re: Re: Does age matter?

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*Originally posted by CocoNut: *
At the tender age of thirteen I'd say the parents should have been more careful with the girl.

For any pubescent but not mentally mature child they are the responsibility of their parents.
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Wrong...regardless of the maturation level, the parents are responsible for the child, at least in the Untied States. Doesn't matter if she is mature or not.

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*Yes, I agree with you that a 19 year old should've considered the pros and cons before she let the guy have his share of fun and leave her to rot. But we have to keep in mind that we as human beings are curious throughout life.

i.e. guys will go to strip bars once in their life time to see what the hype is all about.

i.e. #2 girls will probe and do a few things to see why is this thing called sex so secretive.
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I think Roman covered this above..would love to know the response.

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*Its in our nature to inquire, to indulge, to go astray from morals. Its easier being an animal than being a human. We've been gifted with a brain and thats what differentiates us from the animals, unfortunately folks have proven that there is a less of a difference with all these acts going on.
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So in your opinion is that girl an animal? If so, then why the forty page post. Do you often write about morality in animals? Just above you said something about the low maturation level of the child. and responsibility of hte parents. Now are you saying the parents are animals? Please explain.

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*In this situation the parents are partially to blame, not entirely because we have to take into account the societal pressures, the peer pressure she possibly got from the guy that if she didn't do the deed then he would leave her.

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What if the girl was Mature and wanted to have sex. Peer pressure works both ways. To generalize that the guy pressured her into something is ridiculous considering you have no idea what transpired. In such cases it is best to lay low.

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*Sometimes its just hard to put the blame on who is ultimately responsible for a young but not so young person. I'd say why even bother blaming, its happened, forget it, its the past now, grieve and sulk all you want but its not going to change. The child is here so is the girl, live with it, you have no choice.
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Smartest thing in your post. Couldn't agree more. I urge you as moderator to set an example and remove the rest of your post, it reeks of inexperience and can be counter productive to what you are trying to achieve as a moderator.

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*Age plays a big factor but so does maturity of the mind. I've seen some 25 year old girls who's parents are the best role models yet we have them going around putting each guy down as soon as they rise to the occassion. Go figure.
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This is another sweeping generalization. Bhaijaan, by the time people are 25 they have pretty much settled into who they are, at least sexually. To link the parent's rearing to a 25 yr old's sexual habits is ridiculous. Can you please explain the logic there?

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*Its how you think more than how old you are, society has just set a standard that by the age of 18 you should be responsible for your own acts yet I can name a million examples who aren't.
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Your last statement has no bearing on this 13 yr old, the 2 yr old or the 19 yr old. Please explain.

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I don't think Coco should be asked to edit or remove his post. Rather, readers should feel free to correct him or add to his impressions. Whatever way, it's all just personal opinions.

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Wrong....