Re: Documents during a rishta process - how to approach it politely?
Okay - I believe in background checks where one should not be lying about who they are today. Meaning, if he claims he works for X company doing Y…should be true. The basics like education, employment, salary (no inflated figures), family (one guy never even told me he had a handicapped sister…he wouldn’t acknowledge her as a sibling), etc.
However, I don’t believe in digging up dead stories. I’ve met and spoken to manyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy divorced people PCG. Its always a bad idea to bring up, talk about OR talk to the ex’s. They’re gone…and if you expect anything positive out of them you will be disappointed. I do not speak about my ex-husband and I do not ask about his ex wife…yes there’s a brief exchange of history but only what’s necessary. I don’t see any value in the ex discussions…waste of time. If he’s a cheater, unfaithful, gambler, drinker…you’ll pick up on it sooner or later.