Re: Documents during a rishta process - how to approach it politely?
Why would they not? I am really confused as to why this aspect of peoples’ lives does not deserve as much attention as let’s say…buying a car or a home.
You put a car and home you’re interested in through a thorough investigation to make sure its not been any accidents, house doesn’t have termites, full inspections, appraisals, etc etc.
So why would you not want to know more about the man you will marry? This has nothing to do with trust. Things progress to this level BECAUSE each party is trusting each other.
And furthermore…why do people think a girl’s parents don’t have the right to ask for info?
People do lie about themselves and I’ve caught a few myself. And these are not just the petty lies…like the guy is actually 5’9 but says he’s 5’11 (by the way, I’d love to find out why the 5’9ers are sooooo bent on being 5’11 - common trend). They’re serious lies, i.e. police records, bankruptcies, etc.
It IS standard practice and it should be!
I always cringe when that part comes along…its soooo weird. You don’t want to make the guy feel bad but dil ki tasalli is important. I just want to know how other people are doing it. Are they asking around themselves or just talk to the guy directly?