Men have just as much to lose if a marriage goes wrong and divorce happens or really are women the ones who will be looked down upon if things were not to work .
basically this is the age old question how would you tell someone was genuine when it comes to marriage ?
It depends on the circumstances and the laws where you live…Each side will say their story…whoever has the most most popular/trusted family among you will probably win the publicity war in an event of a divorce… Of course, they’ll be those who just do blanket blaming and blame one party. So when it comes to reputation it could be a draw…
A man could lose his kids, most of his money via child support, alimony and also potential freedom. I know a guy who hasent paid alimony. Not because he doesn’t want to support his kids (pays child support) but he hates his ex-wife that much he doesn’t pay alimony (she cheated on him). Because of this he can’t really travel outside the country. So in a sense…a man could lose a lot of his worth in a divorce as well…theirs a saying “A mans only as good as his potential…” and part of the reason a women marries a guy, is he has potential to be good a provider/father/husband..etc.
There is also a stigma in the Desi community against re-marriage as well…although its not that bad for males. As long as you have some redeeming qualities (rich, good looking, etc) you can find a girl…might have to lower your standards, which I find guys are willing to do.
A girl though after a certain age if they wan’t to get remarried it’ll be really hard add kids to that equation and good luck…similarly you already have the stigma of a failed marriage with you. Of course they’ll be those men who are bottom of the totem pole who will marry anyone. And most women, don’t want those type of guys.
Of the desi failed marriages that I know of…most of the guys eventually remarried white girls who didn’t care about that stuff and had multiple partners in the past. Also they were willing to give up the goods before marriage
Insightful answer by @NaanGuard !
I would like to add that for both men and women, the loss keeps accumulating for years following divorce. As Einstein said, ?not everything that can be counted counts and not everything that counts can be counted.? Declining mental health is one such loss that counts but cannot be counted.
yes…they do…