Re: Do your parents fight? How has it affected your life?
My parents were constantly fighting. A lot of physical domestic abuse/ daily emotional abuse. My dad’s anger was the cause and my mum just took it and saw her role as sticking your marriage out no matter what. The result…she took it out on me. Yes I’ve been affected although Alhumdullilah at 31 it’s the most content I’ve been. How did the abuse manifest itself in me, hmmm, an eating disorder which I occasionally relapse, anxiety, have overcome severe depression, and OCD. I constantly worried as a child with a heightened sense of fear.
The sad thing is my brother is turning into my dad and almost identically imitates his actions/ words when displaying his anger. Sad for my nieces who witness it and shocking for my child who is shocked when he sees it so I try keep him away.
I myself have had anger outbursts and become violent with my partner and it’s taken me several years to allow my husband to emotionally connect with me. Sad really as he is a true gem and everything I could have ever dreamed of. He has stuck by me but just. He was ready to leave after I had Post natal Depression due to my violence and irrational behaviour but with Allah’s mercy he stayed and we r both the happiest we have ever been… His words not mine.
Story of my life! How strange how someone can have the exact story as another person.. The only difference in my story is that I actually left them, at the young age of 17 I packed my bags and left! They then disowned me for my courage of leaving an abusive family, they just couldn’t get over the fact that little old me left THEM!