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i like to ve good good relations with them .i,ll never forbid him to meet them,give money even i,ll go and meet them gift them but its just that i dont wana become 24 hours nurse and cook for them cuz other all kids are married and ve their seprate homes so we both will alone with them
i like to live alone doesnt matter if he make me live at a flat i would love to live in a flat alone rather then in a 8 bed bunglow with them
i'm not married yet but i'd like to live with my in laws it seems easier this way and its what i've grown up doing so we'll see.
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id rather eat glass
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i think its better for the bride to be to live with their inlaws for like a year or two just so they know how her in laws are like so later on when you move, you know what kinda stuff they like and what kinda stuff you should avoid doing.. (you know sometimes there are traditions in family that a bride if doesnt live with in laws can create a problem.. so by living with them.. she would know exactly how to please them..).. juz ma 2 centz..
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i don't want to live with my in laws only because i don't want ANYONE else living with us, whether it be, my parents or his. i want my privacy. i didn't get any my whole life, i want some after i'm married. also, i feel that living separately will make me mentally closer to my inlaws. i don't ming living on the same block as them, but i want my own place.
LOL! ^^^^ that seems to be the case. I am not married yet, Inshallah will be in Dec /jan. My inlaws-to-be live in dubai and my fiance and I live in the US but even so, my fiance was like, 'I dont want ANYONE living with us" lol! I was like ok:p he says he likes his privacy and would like to have his new bride all to himself:D
lol my fiance is the same way!
I will be living by myself...my inlaws live in Pakistan and we live in the US.
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I would never want to live with my inlaws again!
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My MIL did live with us until she passed away.
I would not have problem living with MIL, FIL or unmarried younger SIL or BIL.
I have a big family (6 ppl) so I think it would be good to have some 'ronak' with some people around. And I would love for any kids i have (iA) to learn from their grandparents. Yest my guy called me and said his fam is moving to a bigger house...and he's excited about decorating his room, it's right by his parents room, etc...then it made me think...omgg...it is going to be SOOO GROSS even trying to hug him when his parents are RIGHT THERE!! it's nothing against his parents, even if it was my own parents, i would not feel comfortable with PDA. And especially with doing..stuff. uhhhh...yeah i would even feel embarrassed going into the same room. having parents around makes me feel like i'm their daughter. dutiful daughter mode and affectionate bv mode don't really work together for me. So living next door would be fine, but living in the same house would only work if my hub was ok with me maintaining a 10 ft distance from him at all times.
i know what u mean..its absolutely disgusting..i guess they dont want the mian biwi ot get 'too close' wid each other u know..keep a distance..its sick..id hate living in a family(espcially a big one)..but for way bigger reasons than this..i dont know sweety..wat can i say..all i can say is i hope its not that bad..
oh and 2 answer ur qs..no i dont...no i dont want to..and no i will not bcsi my siuation will be such that i wont have to for life..just for a certain short period of time at beginning..
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naa I wouldn’t mind it.. I have lived in large families before, and ITS FUN… And I wouldn’t like living alone.. 
As long as my mother in law is sweet, its all kool… 
I wish I had some role models of girls who live with their in-laws so I would know how to manage. I know a few girls who have, but they have all moved out REALLY FAST which isn't too encouraging.
My youngest chachi lives with my daadi. My chacha works in another city and comes home only on weekends. She does soo much work without saying a single thing...on top of that one of my phupis as down's syndrome and she gets "doray" and my daadi just ignores her until my chachi takes care of her. Also my daadi always has comments for her...her daughter has reddish brown hair and everyone comments on it. so my daadi always tells her that my phupi was whiter than her...i have no idea what the point of saying that is but i would get so annoyed if my MIL always had comments. It's like the comments aren't big enuf to start a huge drama over, but they just chip away at any potential close bond and just subtly annoy the bahu.
i have a q for those who live with saas:
-how do you decide who cooks? does the bahu cook everyday or does the saas teach the bahu to cook 'her way'?
-what do u do when saas is bugging you to have kids?
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well it sucks whn u hve to live with ur in laws...
i feel sorry for newly wed couple..coz they cnt do anythng infrnt of their in laws..
i wuld hate to live with in laws...
well it sucks whn u hve to live with ur in laws... i feel sorry for newly wed couple..coz they cnt do anythng infrnt of their in laws.. i wuld hate to live with in laws...
They sure can do somethings like cook, eat...what else are you talking about? please enlighten us :D
On serious note, QADAR KHO DAITA HAI ROOZ KA AANA JANA .... so I believe in separate homes for parents and wife.....trust me it automatically take care of small non-issues !
I have a big family (6 ppl) so I think it would be good to have some 'ronak' with some people around. And I would love for any kids i have (iA) to learn from their grandparents. Yest my guy called me and said his fam is moving to a bigger house...and he's excited about decorating his room, it's right by his parents room, etc...then it made me think...omgg...it is going to be SOOO GROSS even trying to hug him when his parents are RIGHT THERE!! it's nothing against his parents, even if it was my own parents, i would not feel comfortable with PDA. And especially with doing..stuff. uhhhh...yeah i would even feel embarrassed going into the same room. having parents around makes me feel like i'm their daughter. dutiful daughter mode and affectionate bv mode don't really work together for me. So living next door would be fine, but living in the same house would only work if my hub was ok with me maintaining a 10 ft distance from him at all times.
Hmmm... most of us here would prefer to live separately so I am no different! its all abt privacy privacy and privacy!!! no chik chik, no interference, no issues, just your house and whatever you want to do. heaven!
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I’ve been married for 6 months m'A, and live w/ my in-laws...i sometimes help her around...but of course haven't took full responsibility of the house..and why would i? my parents didn't get me married so i can please my in-laws by showing them how good of a bahu i can be....plus i hate ppl who think just cuz theres a bahu in the house make her do all the work!... I personally didn’t want to live w/ my in-laws but my husband’s work is rite by.
if we think practically...sometimes in life when we have kids of our own we will eventually have to cook for them, clean up the house, and all the other domestic work so why not enjoy ur 1st few years.
I wouldn't mind living with my in-laws. and if am highly educated/working, i think i can afford a maid. so atleast chik-chik about ghar ka kaam is taken care of!. this way we can focus on other things/issues. Also, cuz am a strong believer of family unity, especially when it comes to parents. (his or mine, samething).
its going to be difficult, but i dont think life would be any rosier on the other side either.
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I think I'd lovee to live near my in laws but not WITH them. Like maybe next door to each other? That would be good =)
