I’ve heard it several times growing up, from friends, acquaintances, etc.
“I dont think I will live to be old.”
Thats the sentiment that makes me wonder how people can make such a statement.
How do you know you wont live to be old?
“I just know. I have a feeling.” Is the usual response I get.
Is it that you dont want to live to be old?
“Who wants to live so long anyway. I dont want to have to depend on others like that.” “Who wants to live with so many wrinkles anyway.”
This is coming from your everyday people.
So what I want to know is, do you feel this way? Do you want to live a very long life? For the muslims, lets put aside the fact that in Islam we should not want our death to be hurried or delayed. Whats your take on this? Are you one of the people that says this to yourself or have said it in the past? Why do you feel the way you do? Any thoughts on this in general?
Munni ...u r right ....personally i too used to make these statements ....until sometime ago ...when my husband strictly asked me not to say this ever again ....!
so now i don't say so ...but i think so .....!
hehe ...no i don't want my death to come sooner than planned or vice versa ....but i pray to Almighty ....let me enjoy the time if i'm doing it with Iman ...n i'm not dependent on anyone
btw ....my mother is in her late 40s ....she has terrible arthritis ....she can't move her right arm ....n now slowly developing the same with left ....n she often says ....now i'm useless ......though not for us ...but as compared to her active past until few years back ...i can really hear her when she uses the word "useless"
n i really don't want to live in that terrible state .......but well , i;ll see whats written for me
Well no one knows when it'll be their time to go. I may just die today or I may outlive the pope, what really matters is what we do with the time that we do have. I think for some of us the dilemma is that we don't realize the reality of death, how cold and closely it breathes down our necks. It's one of those things you think only happens to other people. It's too bad most of us only learn from our mistakes, but sadly enough there are no second chances when it comes to life.
I don't want to die tomorrow, I probably want to live as long as I possibly can, but to me the fear of death is no where as great as the fear of a loved one's death.
I have never heard anyone claim that they won't live too long, that's not a very healthy state of mind. Death is inevitable and one can never be prepared for it, but wishing for it because you're afraid of old age or illness is no different than being afraid of facing any other problems. Sometimes you encounter people with so much energy and will to survive, it fills you with guilt for giving up at something that seems so immaterial later.
**Kisi baat par main kisi say khafa hooN..Main zinda hoon par zindagi say khafa hooN... **
^heheh..Your thread reminds me of this song! :D
Munni,
It's all psychologically normal to have feelings like these. If you had some bad experiences in life then you'd want to live as less as possible. It's like when you meet someone not so pleasant you wish that you spend less and less time with him/her. :)
Just like Afia mentioned that she saw her mom suffering badly from arthritis so it was her bad experience and it might be that she thinks a similar thing could happen to her when she gets old. I myself wouldn't want to live so long because I've seen my grandmother suffer from a cancer and the way people told me she was in her last days/months people wished that she was dead than live in THAT condition. I've seen similar cases so I don't really wanna live longer because I'd rather die than live a 'life of a vegetable'! :)