DO you feel obliged to return the favours done to your parents by their relatives or friends.
I do but my brothers don’t.
At times its causes heated debate among us.
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I don't. I believe in "naiki kar darya mein daal". When I do favors to others, I don't expect anything in return, neither by the person nor by his/her family.
So unless my dad asks me to help someone who may have done a favor to him, I would not feel obliged to return the favors just because the friends/relatives are asking me directly.
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^ Yeah rite
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..NO ...parents ka sunna unki repsect kerna is our responsibility:).if i feel k jo woh keh rahay hain woh koi gunnah nahi then i feel we should do what they wnat us to do:)
and i liked shikra's point of view.never expect nothing in return...coz HUmain return wiasay bhi Allah se mangna chahyee..
agar hum expect keringaye return tu its like humne lalach main kisi ki madad ki ..
aur wiasay bhi khush rehna ka yehi tareeqa hai kabhii ..expectations na rakhoo..:)..istarah koi chota sa bhi favor ekray ga aaap ko barda acha lagay ga:)
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Oh haan if u feel k u shld help those jinhon ne appkay parents ki madad ki thi...then go ahead return the favors..per if they r not in need .,..tu phir zaroorat nahi ..
haan waisay bhi AS Humans ...we need to b kind towards everyone...:)
pata kiya be kind to dem...Her tarah se ..and agar unko zaroorat pardey tu do help dem..KHAALI apni personality achi rakhna aur unka haal chal bhi puch lena bhi naiki main ata hai:)/....
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i feel i owe my parents alot, i can't remember for when i was a kid and stuff but especially over the last three years whilst i'v been away at uni, they'v supported me loads and i feel that i have to repay them in any way i can.
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LOl.that wasnt the question..LOl....YEss we do ALL owe our parents for everything they have done for us..kitni baar humarii galtiyon ko unhon ne maaf kiya ..humaray liyee kitna kuch kiya eventhough humne kabhii kuch retrun nahi kiya..
PER MAA BAAP se ZYADA ALLAh swt NE HAR baar humain maaf kiya itnay gunnah kiyee hum logoon ne aur hum loogon se naamz hi nahi pardhi jaati..He still forgives us anyway.....humaari subah dekhain..hum main se buhut se loogon ki subah hi jhoot se shuron hotii hai and jhoot pe khatam ..her baar baat kertay hoyee aisay lafz keh jatay hain jo humesha k liyee logon k dilon main reh jatay hain..It creates a hole..dere...jo shayad kabhi na fill up ker payain..
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We all owe our parents alot...agar kuch nahi kar skahtay tu the least we can do is respect them:)....chahayee woh galat bhi hoon tu apna opinion batayain zaroor per behas na kerian..agar unki koi baat apsand nahi na...tu CHUp rahay ..UFF TAk na kerain:)
.and not take things dat they have given us for granted..b thankful:)
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DO you feel obliged to return the favours done to your parents by their relatives or friends.
I do but my brothers don't.
At times its causes heated debate among us.
remember those who helped you or your loved ones and help them when they need help or can use help.
ppl dont do favours to get something out of it, but sadly I have seen ppl who have ben recipients of favors and their children later get hostile because if they are in a position to help with something and are asked they act as if the person who helped them is asking for payback in some way.
I have seen ppl who have helped someone kinda hang that on the recpient's head as an ihsaan ki tokri as well..
My view is simple, if you helped my parents or myself, and i can help you now. I will do my best because you helped them when they needed help.
and likewise, if you wronged my folks, then unless and until you make it right, i hae no place in my life for you.
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lol...X2 tu barday hi pathar dil k insaan hain...jkg:P
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DO you feel obliged to return the favours done to your parents by their relatives or friends.
I do but my brothers don't.
At times its causes heated debate among us.
If my parents owed any money to anyone else, relatives or friends, I think it would be my duty to repay it back, that the least I could do for their love, patience and upbringing.
There is nothing one should value more than his/her parents. After all, they would give their arms and legs for us if they had to.
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LOl.haan jee:)..
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ALlah merii amma....:P...jaati hooN!
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remember those who helped you or your loved ones and help them when they need help or can use help. .... My view is simple, if you helped my parents or myself, and i can help you now. I will do my best because you helped them when they needed help.
and likewise, if you wronged my folks, then unless and until you make it right, i hae no place in my life for you.
exactly my sentiments!
Good that this topic was bought out because the fact that this question should even be asked really scares me and saddens me. But it should be addressed as in society too this question has risen on so many levels. I don't understand why the kids feel they are not obligated to help out anyone in need especially those who have been helpful to their parents?. If they are not in the position to help than thats understandable but if they can than its their obligation to do so. Why is that when kids make mistakes its the parents who have to undo the damage and it becomes their responsiblity. But when the kids have to work towards doing something for their parents than that becomes a question as to whether it is necessary or not.
Just recently my bro told me about his friend, who along with his brother is trying to repay for the loans their father had taken but everyday they come across people who discourage them by saying why are you making your life hell? if you try and pay for your father's deaths you wont be able to do much for yourself. To that my bro's frnd said to one of those uncles that "uncle if my father had 2-3 crores for us than that becomes ours but he has debts than we should make them ours too with same willingness". I thought that was a tight slap on that uncle's face. I mean what the hell? if you cant support them emotionally and give them strength than just shut up and dont discourage them.
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This practise was encouraged by the Prophet SAW :)
A man came to the Prophet and asked; “Oh! Messenger of Allah, now that my parents are dead, is there any act of dutifulness left for me to do towards them?”
The Prophet answered; “Yes. There are four things; Supplication for them, praying that they are forgiven, fulfilment of their wills, being kind to their friends and maintaining good relations with those of your relatives with whom your kinship is established only through them.” (Related by Abu Dawood, Ibn Majah and others).
Also, I remember a hadith where Hazrat Aisha r.a mentioned how she was envious of Hazrat Khadeeja r.a. bcoz te Prophet SAW would still send presents to Hazrat Khadeeja's friends years and years after her dealth.
So it seems that we are encourage to keep ties of some form with the ppl our parents had ties with... doing favours is one such way.
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MASHALLAH PINK:)..loved yr reply..:)...