Married people and of course unmarried people because they will undoubtedly come…
Do you ever miss being single? The freedom and independance that comes with single life? The carefee attitude?
What do you do when you miss that life? What do you miss the most about it?
Everytime I go downtown Chicago, I start to think of my city life and miss it. I literally go into a funk and start babbling about how much I love Chicago and drive by my old apartment. I will go to my old haunts and once even went all the way upto my old place…#406. Is that bad of me?
Those were such beautiful days…see? Here I go again!
what you have now holds more importance then what you had before. A loving husband and amazing children cant be less rewarding then when you were single.. can they?
No don't miss single days, but I do get memories of how the days were when I drive past my old uni etc.
I actually start feeling the same as when I was young and single when I meet up with friends who I went to uni with, so it's not like it's gone forever.
However, I think that when you are young and single you have OPEN OPPORTUNITIES and HOPES for the future, you can imagine how your future life might be when you settle down with someone etc.
When you are married then usually you know that your life won't change dramatically in the future, but that's not a bad thing if you are happy being the married you.
I really missed the single days when i was newly married ( i think that had more to do with trying to adjust to a new life)
Now that i have the experience of sharing my life and enjoying everything as a couple, and also the respect/status that a marriage brings, i would not like to be single again
i did not missed those days because i am more independent and free after marriage. my in laws and husband they never stop me doing anything i want to do and what i want to wear. even they never asked me where i am going and why i am going. my old friends use to come my home and they never objected even they enjoyed there company. they never restricted my life.i never felt that i am married and living with in laws. i love my in laws and husband they are very caring and understanding.
Yeah, I do miss that time occasionally, but given a choice to bring that time back or my current one, I would still choose being married and with a partner.
Yes single life was very carefree , but , there always was this sense of loneliness attached with it. Which is not there anymore ,touchwood.
not really... im blessed with a very very laid back susral and husband... they let me do my own thing and give me lots of space... i do feel responsible for meals and keeping the house clean but then i did that when i was single too...
i do miss sleeping whenever i want though.. its harder when ure married and feel sleepy just around the time husband is bout to come home... just little things like that.. but nothign that would make me wanna go back to being single :)
though i do sometimes miss being without a child! just sleeping through the night or going out whenever u get the itch ... now u have to put a million clothes on the kid cuz its winter, then u have to put up with tantrums when they dont wanna sit in their frigginc ar seat... this or that.. feeding issues... so sometimes i do miss not being a mother.. but i certainly dont wish it cuz at the end of the day.. he is my angel :)
I dont miss the single life at all. I moved from Chi town to a smaller metro area and i have the same feelings as you do when we drive by downtown chicago at night. BUT i much rather prefer living where i do now. CHicago is good for visiting only.
LIke others here, i also got more freedom when i got married, Alhamd, so i really like it. Plus, whats better than sharing your life with the love of your life? The only thing is what khawa said: i feel responsible for meals and keeping the house running, BUT that is just another freedom, so to speak.
I miss being single occasionally, very rarely actually. But I've been married for over ten years and now we have this wonderful little girl in our lives so I actually look forward to seeing my girls. Right now I'm out of town, only for two days and have been hanging out with my brother whose wife is also out of town. So we're both living the single life and it's been fun, but i miss my girls.
PSQuared and CB, I think once you adjust to married life a little more, you'll miss your single life less. There will come a point when you won't even be able to imagine being single.
as far as freedom and independence goes, i actually have more of that now, being married, then when i was single. had a very strict upbringing with lots of rules.
what i miss sometimes about being single is definitely the carefree and responsibilty free life, where i was just responsible for myself, planning out just my day and routine...miss it on days when i'm overwhelmed and running in 3 different directions as part of parenting and running a household.
I smell conspiracy . All married people saying that they don't miss the time when they were single . Is it a way to convince us to make forbidden fruit kosher ?
Some days i feel really nostalgic and miss the carefree days of no responsibility....being a free spirit and the lifestyle i had.... but then i just think of what i have now....it's just not comparable and i wouldn't change it for the world. :)
I miss my friends at med school and my life in pak,its so natural, if u have a good past u tends to miss , and its different from wanting that back in life, I am very happy wid my married life but its ok to miss, i dont know why ppl are more defensive,maybe b/c of the recent catfight started in the life 1 ,ppl are now afraid to give thier opinion rather prefer to be diplomatic.
There is nothing bad visiting down memory lane. I do that with my wife, with my friends etc but truth is that its hard to enjoy "single" life again. There is a point in life when you just move on.
whenever we (friends) gather around, we talk about our university, our study groups .... After getting married (and in later visits to Pakistan) , I took my wife to all of my past places ...school, college, university, my cricket ground, restaurants, THILEY (carts) of chooley, burgers etc when I used to go so that whenever we talk about our past....she can relate the things. Similarly, I went with her to her university department etc ....
On last note, I am single from last 20 days or so as family is visiting Pakistan and I am *not *loving it .....
