Do you give space to your spouse?

Most men are scared of marriages or commitment due to the responsibility & more so with the lack of space there is, thereafter. That in fact is true, wives do sometimes get on nerves with their demands, complaints, time requirements, lack of understanding of their spouse’s needs. This is more with women mostly,I think.

How understanding are you? Do you understand that your spouse is with his family? He needs to give time to others? He may be working? He may need to meet his friends? Do you give him space to be & stay how he likes? or do you go down their throat with phone calls, messages, constant bugging?

This is not to be taken personally, I just want to realize if I may not be enough understanding at times that I should be careful of.

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O yea just bought her 1 TB - as her need for SPACE is growing day by day :hinna:

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sure he can get his space i dont mind aslong as he let's me know where he will be spending the day just like if i'am going to a friends house i let him know.. and no i don't call or message him when he's out with friends or for whatever reason.

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imo this spacing taking/giving is pure bull when it comes to husband and wife - i fail to understand the whole concept

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sounds like you are a** "PAID LOBBYIST" ***for men's rights groups! :D*

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giving space to someone/your spouse is how much you understand them, their problems and how much willing you are to compromise. And yes every one needs some space in relationships. And a spouse needs it even more. Husband and wife are life long partners. And it helps their journey to be smooth and steady.

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so what does it mean by if a husband tells his wife, i need some space?

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i dont think it should ever come to that. i think the basic meaning of the OP was that you be understanding of the husband's need and not entertain your own need to cling and question so much that he feels he needs to ask for space

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for your kind info, husbands and wives both, when pushed to the edge, do tell this to each other. And wise ones always improve.

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looks like you two have diff definition of needing some space - the true definition is that you get when you google it

as far as i know compromise has nothing to do with needing or giving space

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obviously we have because we are not the same persons.

some people know very less of compromise, leave the space alone.

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I quoted a situation where the husband/wife is NOT pushed to the edge.
She quoted one (mirage) when a husband/wife IS pushed to the edge.

You are married yourself. Im sure you have had your moments or wanting/needing time alone.

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Men are like water, if you try and make tight grip it runs through your fingers, but if you go with the flow, you go in the same direction togther.

Of course this analogy is kind of flawed because you have to use your own discretion and maintain your own activities too.

Giving space means not being a chipkoo.

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Chipakna zaroor bhi he aur mana bhi :P

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both husband and wife need their space once in a while. It's pretty naive to think that as husband and wife you'll have the same interests and always want to do everything together. It's ok if hubby wants to watch football with his guy pals, or if wifey wants to read a book on the couch by herself.
You have an entire lifetime together, you don't need to be super-glued to each other all the time.

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Women are like dam. They learn how to stop the flow and release water on their own terms....

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God yes. I love my independent time with my friends, family study/career my own social circle or my activities and so does he e'g sports friends work etc, we are not joined at the hip every second.

It makes us appreciate each other so much more...we are both very independent people hence we appreciate that each one of us needs our own time out once in a while. it creates a very good balance. I am definately not a chipkoo type biwi and would hate to be one. There's a fine line between being caring and overprotective and being ever so chipkoo. It's not about me me me 24/7, a husband has OTHER people in his life who he needs to give him time to.

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come on two different people cannot/mustnot have a diff of marriage, glass, water, love, compromise, giving space

imo demesne definition is correct

no, absolutely not

i would never say you stay home im going to hangout with friends i will be home late etc. just in the name of wanting/needing space - or call me two days later

now dont say ifs ands buts

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you don't kill off your friends just because you get married. You are obviously not gonna dump your partner and spend all nighters out but you can still keep a good balance without peeing each other off.

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every once in a while is ok...
but if its every other day then nope, definitely not.... me and kids would rather be a part of his outings...