Do you ever think that the guy you are looking/glancing/staring at has a wife or girlfriend at home and wouldnt like what you are doing? Do you ever think that the joy it gives you when someone looks at you, may be a joy that the persons significant other should rather be receiving?
So the question is: When you look at other people(or when they look at you), do you consider if they have a significant other and how that person might feel? Or do you think, “who cares, its just a glance, we are all human… not everyone has someone …blah blah”?
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*Originally posted by Matsui: *
Over analysis of simple human conditions can cause ulcers. Please refrain Munni, you are too smart and nice to go through that adjidah.
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Well this question was posed by my guy friend so it made me think of two things. One the question, and two, why he was asking me. Btw, I am not smart and definately not nice, but tanku. grin
Usually we are too busy to think of such things. Yes when things go farther I suppose everyone one of us must be thinking in this direction but at "just looking" level, I dont think one would meditate so deep!
I think if you're just looking at the person in appreciation of his/her looks, there is nothing wrong with that even given that the person is married, engaged, divorced, going steady, single, or whatever. You're merely being a human "caveperson" by being perceptive on a basic level and getting attracted to the person's looks, that's all. We might convey or receive a number of these looks in any given day; it's meaningless unless action is taken upon it.
i don't really like to stare. one glimpse, and thats enough for me. if i blink twice and am still looking at that person, i don't feel good about it.
call me religious, or old fashioned, or whatever. thats how i feel.
the argument that 'I'm just appreciating the persons good looks' doesn't fly with me'. thats just a step away from actually going upto the person and telling them that 'I think you look good'.