Do you discuss the "red flags" with the potential rishta?

[Hulahoop_Queen]

Re: Do you discuss the “red flags” with the potential rishta?

@BarbieCue

Hulahoop, that is exactly what I mean. They judge you in a way that isn’t at all correct according to you. Did they ever say all that to your face? You could’ve cleared up their misunderstandings then and there. For example, if a guy spoke too much and didn’t give you a chance to speak much you might speculate that he’s too obsessed with himself, disrespectful etc. In actual fact, he might just be too nervous and if you were to tell him what put you off, he may apologise and say sorry I didn’t even realise, I was just nervous or something… Why keep crossing people out of your list on the basis of assumptions, speculations and misunderstandings?

Nah, I don’t clear misunderstandings first time someone is meeting me. I feel like I don’t need to justify myself to someone i dont even know. I cross people off my list who think they can make their decision about a person based on one meeting.