Do you allow anyone else to scold your child?

[Muzna]

Re: Do you allow anyone else to scold your child?

@khattichic

My husband and I are not adverse to others scolding our children. In my extended family, we’re all pretty close, and the kids are all raised pretty much the same in that if one of is scolds the other’s child it’s usually for a reason and we all back each other up.

If another adult were to reprimand my child, I would expect my child to listen to that adult in that moment, show respect, and stop doing whatever it was that they were scolded over . If my child feels they were unfairly chastised by someone else, we can discuss it privately later and if needed, I would address the situation with the other adult. I’ve raised my kids to be mindful of authority..be it another family member, teacher, stranger etc.

So in short, in most circumstances, it would not bother me.

THIS.
Nothing more, nothing less.
My child understands that she needs to show respect, regardless of whether or not she is being fairly scolded. If she has an objection or appeal then she is totally allowed to do that in consultation with her parents.

Reha, you’re right…there is no other way around it. There comes a point when adults need to step in and take some action. That sounds like the case for the situation that you are describing.