**When people get emotionally attached to you, isn’t it like a huge burden on your shoulders? **Discuss.
I was chatting with a dear old friend of mine and he told me this. Maybe I am a burden.. who knows? Do you agree with what he is saying?
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I guess sometimes that does hold true. I mean if that person's attachment gets in the way of you going about your day, then yeah. If it takes a couple of minutes to satiate their obsession with you then its no big deal 'eh
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It depends. Normally, i don't let next person "emotionally" attached to me. no sooner i realize that things are getting on my nerves, i start acting weird which makes the next person get away from me. pretty easy way to do that.
However, if someone is special then i would love to be the one on which that person can rely on .. I WOULD LOVE! .. rather i crave to have someone like that :$
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I would not call it a burden, a sense of responsibility? Probably yes. Positive influence/surroundings provide no burden what so ever no matter how huge or important the subject actually is.
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Are you sure you won't get tired of them?
It depends. Normally, i don't let next person "emotionally" attached to me. no sooner i realize that things are getting on my nerves, i start acting weird which makes the next person get away from me. pretty easy way to do that.
However, if someone is special then i would love to be the one on which that person can rely on .. I WOULD LOVE! .. rather i crave to have someone like that :$
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Are you sure you won't get tired of them?
Not if you care about that person. I guess that's how you know that you care, when you don't get tired of their constant attention.
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i guess it depends, if u want that person to be attached to you then no its not a burden.
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Thought invigorating:hmmm:
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Are you sure you won't get tired of them?
as i explained .. "if someone special" .. .. which means .. that my level of care, respect and importance will never let me tired of that person.
did you ever get tire of your mother?
did you ever get tire of your father?
you don't .. .. but they are not that emotionally dependent on you (exceptions are there) but normally they don't.
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Oh no, actually my mum and dad keep on telling me all the time about what an emotional hold I have over them. I guess that does mean they are emotionally dependent on me.
Dad: Yes, I do get tired of him sometimes.
Mum: Nope. I love her to bits.
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I said .. exceptional case :) .. ..
and you will never get rid of her .. for sure (obvious from your blog entries). thats the emotional dependency .. I can write more on that but it would be off topic .. ..
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|:^_^]:|
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Yeh I know. My mum and I fight and stuff but always end up loving each other more. We smile and reconcile.
I said .. exceptional case :) .. ..
and you will never get rid of her .. for sure (obvious from your blog entries). thats the emotional dependency .. I can write more on that but it would be off topic .. ..
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which means you will never get tired of her .. :)
she might get tired of u .. u r annoying .. :p
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**When people get emotionally attached to you, isn't it like a huge burden on your shoulders? **Discuss.
ya agree with you there ,
Ladies yall need to realise if a SHARIF boy is goin out wiw u or living or sleepin results in an unexpected pregnancy not necessarily means he should marry you
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**When people get emotionally attached to you, isn't it like a huge burden on your shoulders? **Discuss.
I was chatting with a dear old friend of mine and he told me this. Maybe I am a burden.. who knows? Do you agree with what he is saying?
That friend might not have been referring to you when he said this. He could have meant it as a general comment.
I would say that it CAN be true, but there are exceptions as well. Take for example young kids. They're emotionally attached to their parents....but the parents don't see them (exceptions of course) as a burden because they know that they're helpless and lack the knowledge/experiences to become more independent. They know that they have greater responsibilities but the bond in that relationship is such that for most...it's not seen as a "burden." That said, the "type" of relationship can be a factor in your question. A person might be more "tolerant" of the emotional attachment in their children.....their parents/siblings........their spouse. And depending upon profession (psychologist, counselor, etc) your client (to an extent) may be emotionally dependent upon you as well and in this case, that just is a part of the job.
Other thoughts that come to mind... Sometimes a person who is emotionally attached to you can become too clingy or "chipku" and this can send off the "desperate" vibe that generally turns off both men and women. We tend to be attracted to those who make us feel "needed" to an extent.....but are also independent and confident. A clingy individual may become so dependent upon you to the extent that it gets in the way of your goals and responsibilities. In other words, you may not be able to tend to your other chores because that person is consuming too much of your time and might even expect you to give so much of your time in taking care of them. And that can be frustrating. Also, at times the "emotionally attached" person might be a bit of a "Debbie Downer".........constantly talking about their problems in life and their heartache.........and the frequent negativity can drain the listener and bring them down as well. It can take its toll.
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He should or rather he would... though I wasn't really talking about someone going out with someone. More of in general terms, like in friendship.
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That friend might not have been referring to you when he said this. He could have meant it as a general comment.
I would say that it CAN be true, but there are exceptions as well. Take for example young kids. They're emotionally attached to their parents....but the parents don't see them (exceptions of course) as a burden because they know that they're helpless and lack the knowledge/experiences to become more independent. They know that they have greater responsibilities but the bond in that relationship is such that for most...it's not seen as a "burden." That said, the "type" of relationship can be a factor in your question. A person might be more "tolerant" of the emotional attachment in their children.....their parents/siblings........their spouse. And depending upon profession (psychologist, counselor, etc) your client (to an extent) may be emotionally dependent upon you.
Other thoughts that come to mind... Sometimes a person who is emotionally attached to you can become too clingy or "chipku" and this can send off the "desperate" vibe that generally turns off both men and women. We tend to be attracted to those who make us feel "needed" to an extent.....but are also independent and confident. A clingy individual may become so dependent upon you to the extent that it gets in the way of your goals and responsibilities. In other words, you may not be able to tend to your other chores because that person is consuming too much of your time and might even expect you to give so much of your time in taking care of them. And that can be frustrating. Also, at time the "emotionally attached" person might be a bit of a "Debbie Downer".........constantly talking about their problems in life and their heartache.........and frequent negativity can drain the listener and bring them down as well. It can take its toll.
Nice thoughts RV once again. God forbid to the black bold part! :-(
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God forbid to the black bold part! :-(
^But it can happen though. And I believe that MOST people have been on the giving and receiving end of this situation. For example, many of us have dealt with friends that keep harping and harping about their worries.....and while you want to help.......the negativity (complaining, etc) can make it frustrating for the helper....because the person is so stuck in that mode that they don't want to take any constructive action to resolving their problems. They just want to vent...and it can be cathartic to an extent...but it can go overboard as well. Or WE ourselves may have found ourselves in a situation where a loved one (sibling, parent, friend) might have snapped at us and told us to quit analyzing, whining....and take control. I'll admit that I've been on either end at various points. It's a part of the socializing and even healing process. The important thing is for the listener to realize when their own needs are taking a back seat and set some limits................and for the person who is emotionally attached to be conscious of how they're affecting others and to reflect over whether they're actions are truly "proactive" or getting them somewhere.
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Yeh I have been at both ends too that's why said god forbid. *I hate it when a person I am close to, tells me I am getting tad bit annoying. I then have to cut back on my venting. *It sucks. I don't want it to happen but it does. The venting and stuff I mean. It happens because I think that they are close to me, my best friend etc and I want to share with them. Sigh.